(Closed) Not using response cards for RSVPS… using wedding website instead. Opinions?

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 61
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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underblueskies1016 :  I did online only RSVPs and 80% of people figured it out just fine. The people who did not either simply forgot or gave verbal RSVPs. I did not care about the personal opinions regarding RSVP options of my guests. It’s 2016…there is absolutely no need to waste that much paper and money this day and age. Plus I do not have the patience to wait around checking the mailbox for paper RSVPs every day…or waiting for all the late ones that people mail the day of the deadline.

HOWEVER, only about 6 of my guests are over 60 so your demographics may influence your decision…BUT in my case, the older people were actually the FIRST ONES to RSVP online!

Post # 62
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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underblueskies1016 :  We didn’t do RSVP cards either. 

We had about 30% of our guests coming from overseas anyway so it didn’t make sense to offer a half website / half card option when we were only having 70 guests. 🙂 We also barely had any parental age type of guests other than our folks and grandma so we just filled in their RSVPs manually and it went off well. 

I didn’t spend alot on the invites and just thought it would be another pile of cards to chuck after we tallied the RSVPs by hand! None of our guests seemed to have minded (honestly if they did it wouldn’t have bothered me either.) 

Post # 63
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I did paper RSVPs & only had to chase maybe two of my husbands single male friends.

I expected a lot less of a response because I feel that in my area, everyone goes the email / website route these days. 

I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man next weekend & the bride has had an extremely difficult time getting her RSVPs back & hers are email / phone.

Post # 64
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

We didn’t have response cards. We’re an international couple, so half our guests were from my home country and half from his country, plus some from other places. We didn’t want to deal with figuring out the correct postage in each country, so we just omitted it.

We didn’t just do a wedding website, though. We also gave our phone numbers for people to call/text and an e-mail address that we created just for the RSVPs. It worked out fine and we only had to chase a couple of people in the end (out of 200).

Post # 65
2141 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I havent read all responses but wanted to comment because I just had one of those ‘america is different to the UK’ moment and when

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lahela017 : said ‘I walk past my own mailbox’ I got really confused for a second thinking ‘well were not all clever enough to of won olympic gold’ lol laughing


in response to the original question… we will 100% be doing online, I HATE the wastage of it and I veiw it no different to junk mail – I do everything even my tax return online so it would be a pain in the ass… I would actually have to go look for a postbox, cant remember the last time I saw or used one but definately before I moved 5 years ago

Post # 66
193 posts
Blushing bee

Must say I’m shocked by the responses!  Of all the weddings I’ve been to in the last few years, only one had an electronic RSVP and it struck me as so odd.

OP, do what makes you happy. I’m a traditionalist, so I prefer paper invites for major events and with that paper RSVP cards. 

Post # 67
4038 posts
Honey bee

I think a lof of people underestimate guest ability to use a computer/the internet. The only person I know who has never touched a computer is my 91 year old mother. And she’d know someone who could use it for her. My 91 year old mother in law uses the internet, on a daily basis; she responded to both my daughters’ weddings online.

My husband and I are both 60+. We’ve had a computer in our home for decades and have used them for work even longer. Before I left one of my jobs for a move (1983), I was working on installing a computerized system, for the company’s financials. As soon as the internet was in use, we were off and runing …

P.S. The only couple, of 250 invited guests, who didn’t bother responding to the invitation to my 1st daughter’s wedding, has a PhD. Didn’t even send a congratulatory e-mail, either. Common courtesy = 0.

Post # 68
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

This thread made me realized I’ve actually never received a wedding invitation with a paper RSVP card, haha. They’ve all either been website or email. 

We set up an RSVPify and also included my phone number. I had two guests call to RSVP (my grandmother and another older woman). Everyone else did it online with no complaints and quite a few comments about how convenient it was! It also allowed me to completely avoid the RSVP drama that people talk about on here with people writing in guests… I had my guest list pre-set so whoever RSVPing just typed up their name, then the names of everyone in their party would appear and they could say yes or no for all of them too. 

It had nothing to do with money – my invitations were a major splurge for us. I just couldn’t picture the vast majority of our younger guests getting their butts to a mailbox, honestly. 

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