- 4 years ago
This sounds rather toxic- for you as well as them. I realize your feelings toward them stem from their treatment of you, but it’s still a major concern.
It sounds like his kids see you as a mistress/homewrecker. You say in your opening paragraph that your friendship with him was inappropriate while the two of you were both unhappily married. Even if this was a symptom of an unhappy marriage rather than the cause of the marriage unravelling, the latter seems to be how his children and his ex-wife see it. And if the ex-wife is bitter, she’ been fuelling her own children’s animosity toward you as well and has put you firmly in the ‘other woman’ category, even if this hurts her children more in the process. How is your partner handling the children’s feelings toward you? A lack of communication could extend to this as well and if he hasn’t already spoken to them, it seems long overdue.