Post # 1
So i’ve been engaged since the middle of June 2010. We’re planning to get married sometime July or August 2011. So just over a year engagement. The reason I’m posting is because we haven’t started planning yet. (no date, no guest list, no budget, nothing) I’m just trying to figure out if i’m ok with this.
I want to start planning because…
1. I’m excited to plan it! I’m constantly reading weddingbee.com which gets me all inspired! I think I’ll enjoy the work
2. In september, I go back to university and I will be very busy with it this year. (before we got engaged, I told my SO that I wanted to start planning early because I wouldn’t have very much time during the school year)
3. Starting to plan early will help me to not stress over the planning, which is very important to me
The reasons I don’t want to start planning:
1. As the third wedding in three years, my family (and I) are pretty sick of non-stop wedding planning and wedding related stress.
2. My FH isn’t really ready to start planning. He just wants us to enjoy the summer and is in no hurry to start booking things.
I’m excited to wedding plan, but I’m not exactly in a rush to start. A year is a good length of time. But I promised my SO that I wouldn’t get stressed if we planned a wedding, but i’m afraid that will happen if I have to plan the majority of it during the school year. So, should I wait until my SO and family are ready to start planning or should I just get the ball rolling.
Opinions? Advice? I assume the FH will let me plan the details myself, but I can’t exactly pick the date without him!
Post # 3
I wouldn’t be worried about planning just yet. It’s hard to really decide on details until you are closer to the wedding.
Post # 4
if its definitely going to be july/august then i would say definitely start looking into things. there are somethings u can do early without him, like look online for a dress, decide on bridesmaids dresses n stuff like that.. but seriously u dnt wanna leave it too late b4 u start planning
Post # 5
oh gosh, I started early and am SO glad I did. A few reasons:
1. I got burnt out quickly, and the early start allowed me to take wedding breaks, and not think about it for a few weeks at a time, periodically as I needed them.
2. I changed my mind a lot, and the first few stages of planning, after we booked our venue, were mostly ideas, so brainstorming tons of ideas early helped me narrow down what we really wanted (because there were some ideas I just kept coming back to).
Post # 6
Thanks for the input. It sounds like its time to get down to business for my own sanities sake. 😛
Post # 7
I’d say start. We’re getting married Aug 20, 2011. I started looking at venues this past May, and by the end of June, two had already booked for our date. I’d say if you have anything specific in mind that you want, get them now. I think its easier to get things taken care of when you have time, then take a break from wedding stuff to concentrate on other things. I think it’d be easier for you in the long run, since school get stressful. My friend explained it well the other day. She said wedding planning is a lot like moving into a new house. You need to get one room unpacked and put together for your own sanity, just so that when everything else is chaos, you can go sit in that room and be excited about your new house. Congrats, by the way. 🙂
Post # 8
You need to pick a date before you can really plan anything. Your dream venue or photographer may not be available. However I don’t think it’s too early. I booked my photographer and venue last week and my wedding isn’t until Nov. 2011 (11-11-11). We have also been engaged since May 2009.
Post # 9
i’m a natural procrastinator so i know that by starting earlier i can take a few breaks when i need to be lazy!
Post # 10
@MissShork: Start Planning! Trust me it helps. I”m not engaged yet but planning is like therapy. It helps. That way you will have something to present to him. Tenative dates, colors, etc. That way he can pick out of what you have chosen versus having to research himself. (Which men don’t like to do).
I have started planning since the day we went ring shopping two months ago. I have so much in mind. I’ve narrowed it down to 2 venues, I’m set on the date (I don’t think he cares about that), I have an idea for colors but will get his opinion to finalize.
Planning is so fun. I have a binder made up of print outs. It is therapeutic and eases your mind. Nothing is booked or set in stone but I strongly advise starting.
Post # 11
I have witnessed 2 weddings and will be 3 next weekend at my job. Each person was stuck doing little stuff and making changes at the last minute. Those who planned thoroughly and others who did not. Either way you will never be fully prepared. So better to get a head start to eliminate some of the stress closer to the day.