Post # 1
Hey guys, I just wanted to give some positive words. I’m sorry about all the negativity, but I just wanted to give ya’ll support and i hope all your days come soon!!
I never had to wait. we just kept talking and talking and then he proposed to me with his mom’s ring, but we had already considered ourselves engaged, but i did have to wait for my own ring. it came out of nowhere!! one day i was at work, came “home” to his parents house, and the ring was on my pillow! i had no clue. it was perfect 🙂
i wish you all the best.
Post # 3
thanks for the kind words lauren! i know the encouragement makes the wait a little easier!
Post # 4
thanks for the kind support lauren! much appreciated around these parts 🙂
Post # 5
I agree. As far as I’m concerned, Fiance and I were engaged way before the ring landed on my hand. A ring does not symbolize our level of committment and to be honest, I was quite frustrated with having to justify where we were in our relationship by jewelry.
I think it’s great that you have a place where you can congregate and share. I know I personally find it refreshing to see how excited everyone is to approach marriage, especially during times like these.
Do not get discouraged by what others say. Do not start to feel like you have to justify/defend yourself. Embrace the love you share with your significant others and celebrate it all the time.
We all waited for something at some point…
Post # 6
Thanks that is so nice of you to show us some love! Hopefully one day I will look back at the time in my life when I was waiting and laugh. lol
Post # 7
@ trugem – I don’t look back on the time I was waiting and laugh. It still makes me really upset and unhappy to think about, which is why I don’t come by much. He thinks that everything is fine because he finally asked, but I still can’t help but sometimes wonder if he truly respects my feelings if he was so willing to let me be as miserable as I was just so he could have his great proposal story that made everyone think he was so amazing. (Wow. That sounds bitter.)
I just wanted to say that I really wish the waiting forum had been around when I was waiting…ya’ll are all so much nicer and so much more supportive than those bitches on the Knot and everybody over there acted like it was so stupid and pathetic to be waiting – it was all a bunch of already engaged or married people who hung out there to pick on the waiting girls and they were just vicious! I think you all have made this a really nice community.
I just wanted to say that I don’t think that any of you are stupid or pathetic – I think you all seem really nice and really supportive and really sweet to each other. I second what farfromordinary said – don’t feel like you need to justify and defend your relationship, and don’t think you need to justify or defend wanting to get engaged either. Wanting to be engaged is a totally valid feeling, and nobody should make you feel inferior about it.
Post # 8
@edb: how long did you wait? Did you tease/tourture you? I’ve been with my bf for almost 6.5 years (since I was 17), and sometimes I feel like he is tourturing me, but I know he is planning something special. Plus, I knew that he wouldn’t propose until he started his career and that is happening now so I have my fingers crossed!