Post # 1
i don’t want to be “given away” by my father or anyone else. i know that there is an easy way around that, just don’t do it, but then i was thinking, why parade down the aisle then? if i’m not being presented to my husband as an offering than why would i have to parade myself down the aisle? has anyone been to a wedding where the bride and groom start out at the front together, no parading of a bridal party or parents or bride down the aisle just both up front and begin the ceremony? and if so how did it work for the flow of the ceremony?
Post # 3
I have never seen that before. Might be weird if I got sat down and already saw both of you up there. What if you both just walk down the aisle together?
Post # 4
In Victorian times, both the bride and groom came down the aisle/into the room together. I don’t see anything wrong with what you are wanting to do, but if you want a grand entrance, you will miss out on that. If you both come in together, you can still have a grand entrance.
Post # 5
I’ve never seen a wedding with no processional. Instead, I’ve seen plenty where the two partners walk in together.
The benefit of the processional is it an easy way to have a dramatic beginning, and it prevents the bride/s from having to talk to anyone before! Personally, there are only so many times someone can ask me if I am nervous before I punch somebody.
Post # 6
I vote for walking down the aisle together. Or if your parents want to participate, maybe yours can escort you and his can escort him, as in a Jewish wedding.
I also think you should be careful when making assumptions – just because someone chooses to walk with her father down the aisle, doesn’t mean she’s “being presented to her husband as an offering” or “parading herself down the aisle.” If you don’t like it, you don’t have to do it, but please don’t judge the vast majority of brides who do choose to be escorted by their fathers.
Post # 7
I think you could pull off just being at the front together from the start. My hubby and I walked down the aisle together… though there were only 4 guests in attendance. I think it was a great alternative and would have done it if we would have had a normal wedding too.
Post # 8
I’d like to second GirlWithARing–I totally understand you not wanting to walk down the aisle with your dad, but those of us that are having our fathers walk us down the aisle are not necessarily celebrating an anachronistic sexist ritual meant to turn us into objects that are traded amongst men. I’m walking down the aisle with my dad because he and I have an extraordinarily close relationship and I want to honor him and spend those few special moments with him before I take this huge step in my life. That being said, I think your best bet is walking in with your soon-to-be husband. You don’t have to do the long walk down the center aisle, if you’d prefer to avoid that, but you could both walk in together from the side when the ceremony is ready to begin. If you’re already standing up there I think guests might feel a little weird as they’re arriving–possibly that they’re late and you were waiting on them. Good luck!
Post # 9
thank you all for your input. i like the idea of walking with my fiance.
i meant no offence to anyone who chooses to walk with their father or anyone else. i can see how my wording was slightly inflamatory and i apologize for that. i respect every person’s right to have the ceremony they wish to have for their wedding.