(Closed) not walking down the aisle

posted 12 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have never seen that before.  Might be weird if I got sat down and already saw both of you up there.  What if you both just walk down the aisle together?

Post # 4
3928 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

In Victorian times, both the bride and groom came down the aisle/into the room together. I don’t see anything wrong with what you are wanting to do, but if you want a grand entrance, you will miss out on that. If you both come in together, you can still have a grand entrance.

Post # 5
1354 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve never seen a wedding with no processional. Instead, I’ve seen plenty where the two partners walk in together.

The benefit of the processional is it an easy way to have a dramatic beginning, and it prevents the bride/s from having to talk to anyone before! Personally, there are only so many times someone can ask me if I am nervous before I punch somebody.

Post # 6
845 posts
Busy bee

I vote for walking down the aisle together. Or if your parents want to participate, maybe yours can escort you and his can escort him, as in a Jewish wedding. 

I also think you should be careful when making assumptions – just because someone chooses to walk with her father down the aisle, doesn’t mean she’s “being presented to her husband as an offering” or “parading herself down the aisle.” If you don’t like it, you don’t have to do it, but please don’t judge the vast majority of brides who do choose to be escorted by their fathers.

Post # 7
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think you could pull off just being at the front together from the start.  My hubby and I walked down the aisle together… though there were only 4 guests in attendance.  I think it was a great alternative and would have done it if we would have had a normal wedding too.

Post # 8
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I’d like to second GirlWithARing–I totally understand you not wanting to walk down the aisle with your dad, but those of us that are having our fathers walk us down the aisle are not necessarily celebrating an anachronistic sexist ritual meant to turn us into objects that are traded amongst men.  I’m walking down the aisle with my dad because he and I have an extraordinarily close relationship and I want to honor him and spend those few special moments with him before I take this huge step in my life.  That being said, I think your best bet is walking in with your soon-to-be husband.  You don’t have to do the long walk down the center aisle, if you’d prefer to avoid that, but you could both walk in together from the side when the ceremony is ready to begin.  If you’re already standing up there I think guests might feel a little weird as they’re arriving–possibly that they’re late and you were waiting on them.  Good luck!

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