Post # 1
My Future Mother-In-Law is a very sweet person, and has always been super sweet and caring towards me. 🙂 She’s also a very crafty person–does a lot of knitting, crocheting (sp?) and beading. The challenge (I don’t want to say problem), is that although her stuff is really pretty, it’s definitely a certain look–crafty, old fashioned sort of vibe.
Anywho, my fiance was talking to her earlier, and she said that she’s currently in the process of making jewelry for the entire bridal party. (I didn’t ask….I think this is just one of her ways of being thoughtful) Which is very sweet and also…potentially not very matching? She’s given me a lot of things that I never wear, mostly because I never have a reason to.
Luckily, I have a bridal party who I think would be totally sweet and accomidating, and wouldn’t mind wearing the jewelry, even if it doesn’t quite match. And I don’t really mind if it doesn’t look…then again, I don’t want to force anyone to wear something they don’t want.
Any thoughts on how to handle this? Should I just take advantage of my nice bridal party, and try not to insult my FMIL? Or should I see if there’s a way to intervene?
Post # 3
Can you just include them in the Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts? That way everyone can properly ooohh and aaahh over them to her and they never have to wear them and she will never be the wiser.
Post # 4
Does she expect them to wear the jewelry on the day of the wedding? You could have them wear it to the rehearsal instead? Or wear it for some photos and then change to something else or take it off?
Post # 5
I think that’s really sweet of her! Although, has she talked to you about what kind of dresses your girls will be wearing? I find it kinda strange that she wouldn’t mention the jewelry to you. I think if you really dont mind what they look like, you should let her make them for your girls. Who knows, it could turn out super cute.
If it doesn’t turn out super cute, you can thank her profusely, but graciously say that you had bought jewelry for your girls already. 😀
Post # 6
Thanks everyone for your thoughts and suggestions. 🙂 She didn’t actually ask about the dresses, or what I’d be looking for…and I feel like writing that makes her sound not so great, though that’s how she is, and I’m totally okay with that. (It works with her personality, which is fine).
I’ve actually already spoke with 2 out of 4 of the bridal party, and they’re both fine with wearing what she makes. (One is my sister whose response to everything has been “sure if that makes you happy, whatever you want.”) And, I think the other two will be okay with it. So, I think for the sake of showing appreciation, maybe we can go with it. 🙂 And luckily the wedding won’t be SO formal that it’ll clash. Everyone’s wearing chiffon, which I think has a casual feel. So hopefully it’ll be okay. 🙂
Post # 7
I think thats great! Sometimes it hard for the mother of the groom to find her “place” in the wedding (we have also had this problem) And I think having her make the jewelry will make her feel really needed
Post # 8
so FH knows but does she know that he told you? if not, maybe you could gush about how you found the perfect necklaces to go with your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and got a great deal on them and got them for their presents. then when she says she’s making them you can say “oh poo, how about they wear them for the rehearsal dinner?” lol. i know what you mean though, my Future Mother-In-Law is similar – suuuuuuuuuuper nice with everything she does! she’s full of ideas (whether or not they go with the theme is another story!)