(Closed) Not wanting to invite brothers GFs.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 4
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

It really depends what you want to do. Some people think it’s rude to invite people to a wedding without a date, but most weddings aren’t so intimate so I don’t think anyone can accuse you of being too unfair.

Etiquette says you only need to invite married or engaged people as couples, non-serious couples do not need to be invited as a unit.

If your brothers are in the bridal party at all you might want to invite their girlfriends though as a gesture of appreciation.

Post # 5
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

No way would I invite Brother’s g/f’s .  I have 4 brothers and I’m the last to get married so it’s not a big deal, but some of their g/f’s .. were barely around for a month.  They will be just fine hanging out with each other for a few hours. 


On another note…I HATE your FACE .. and IRISH Wolfhound pup!!! omg sooo soo envious.  You MUST POST pics.  (hate your face is thrown around here alot, i don’t really hate your face just so flipping ENVIOUS)

Post # 6
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d see what the situation is when you actually send out your invites.  If they’re with the same girlfriends then as they are now, MAYBE invite them.  If it’s a recent flavour of the week (or fingers crossed they’re totally single on the day you address the envelope) no random +1’s.

Post # 9
2260 posts
Buzzing bee

I think its something you don’t really need to worry about now, especially if they aren’t serious with their GFs like you say they are. Hopefully by then you can just explain to them that they’ll be busy with your wedding and if your feeling up to it say that the girls can stop afterwards during the reception to keep them company. 

How old are your brothers btw? They sound really young to me… 

Post # 11
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

omg they are soooooooooo sooooooooo cute omg.  so cute … yeah your brother’s shouldn’t b ring g/f’s you need that money for food for that cute puppy.  (yeah the hate your face thing .. no idea how it started.. oh i can’t imagine we were all drinking or something lol, but it’s the HIGHEST form of envy) 😀 

Post # 13
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Silly_love:  Sorry but I think common courtesy is to invite your brothers’ gfs. Why should you invite them ahead of close relatives? Because they are the partners of even closer relatives, and common social etiquette is when you invite someone somewhere, you invite their partner.

My brother got a new gf a few weeks before my wedding. It didn’t affect our wedding in the slightest. By the time of your wedding they’ll have been together at least 4-5 months. If you don’t invite them, you’re saying, “Come celebrate my love, but I don’t recognise yours”.

Post # 15
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@paula1248:  isn’t it just married and engaged couples where that’s a hard and fast ‘etiquette rule’? Not saying I don’t agree that it would be a nice gesture to invite them but I’m unsure of whether or not it’s a breach of etiquette. Unless we are inhabiting the ‘not allowing every single person to have a plus one is a breach of etiquette’ space – but I think the OP’s small wedding precludes that to begin with. Isn’t it a more important etiquette rule to be consistent in having either no +1s or everybody getting a +1?

OP, the only worry I would have is, what if one of these girlfriends ends up being around for a really long time after all, and then you’re stuck feeling awkward that she didn’t come to your wedding even though she (might) end up being a part of your family?

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