Post # 1
So today my ex goes to court for his DUI…not that I should care, but 2 of my kids were subpoenaed to attend as the night it happened my oldest tried to stop their dad, but he took off anyway, so my son called the police after an adult did. my 2nd son wasn’t involved in that part , but when the police came to the house, son #2 showed the police all the empties that belonged to his dad and they took a statement from both (my youndest was at a sleepover and missed it all. thanks good!) So my 2 boys are stressed out and scared and they know this is serious business. I feel so horrible for them, but at the same time, i am so proud they did the right thing!
I jsut hope that today goes fast for them and it’s over and dealt with and their dad’s nasty ass temper doesn’t rear it’s ugly head. i think the boys are more affraid that theur dad is gonna freak out on them for telling on him.
back ground: when this happened in April (easter weekend!!) he went to jail for the night, when he got home in the early morning, he woke my oldest up and yelled and screamed at him because he was a “snitch” and kicked him out (they only spend 2 weekends a month and a few weekdays) my oldest didn’t see or talk to his dad for 3 months! his dad wanted nothing to do with him. they eventually made up, but i know this man and he will get angry and take it out on the boys as he never does anything wrong and NEVER accepts responsibility for the things he does!
if you have made it this far, thanks, and please keep my boys in your thoughts today, I have a feeling it’s gonna end badley for them once again.
Post # 3
Sounds like their father needs to grow up! I’m sorry you and your boys are going through this, you really shouldn’t have to. I’m sure in time things will pan out.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry to hear this! I hope everything works out and your ex realizes what he’s doing before he really hurts someone else, or himself.
Post # 5
I’m thinking good thoughts for your boys! What a crummy position their father put them in.
Post # 6
Thanks Ladies, unfortunately, they sat in court all day STRESSED out and only to have it postponed for 6 months, the officer that was to testify was sick and couldn’t make it. So my poor boys will have to do it all again come August.
unfortunately he will never grow up! He was arrested almost 6 years ago for DV on me and my oldest was the one to call police back then, so he will never see the damage he is going to them! I do my best to show them what is right and my husband is wonderful for them, a great roll model and loves them very much…i just wish their own father would see that he needs to change…but I am sure that won’t happen.
Post # 7
Oh, how frustrating for them to have to wait and be stressed out about the situation again.
I have to say, though, what brave kids you’ve raised – it takes a lot of guts to do the right thing (especially as kids!) when it involves someone you love, and they did it. It’s an awful situation for them to have been put in, especially if this is not the first time they’ve encountered him abusing alcohol and acting in violent and unsafe ways. Unfortunately, as I’m certain you know from experience, people who have problems with alcohol have blinders on when it comes to how their actions affect those in their lives. Thank goodness your kids have you and your husband in their lives as positive forces and good role models.
Post # 8
I feel bad for your boys this must be so hard on them. Hubby needs to accept he is in this mess because of him and nobody else. It’s easy to point the finger and very hard to accept our faults. I wish the best for you and your family.
Post # 10
Sounds like your ex is a real class act. But seriously, I’m glad you’re no longer with him and I’m glad that you’re raising your kids to have good heads on their shoulders and do the right (and safe) thing.
Post # 11
Thank you all, for your kind words 🙂
I was informed today that the Crown in the case said that the boys will not be made to attend when the case does get rescheduled, thank goodness! they are relieved as am I.
for my defense, I am far from perfect, but I have always tried to make the right decisions once I became a parent. I was young when the ex and I got together and I stayed WAY too long, but I did get out and am trying my best with help from my amazing husband to raise decent, caring, respectful young men. Hopefully the good in them will outweigh the bad things they have been witness to in their young lives.
thanks again ladies 😉