(not wedding related) When did you tell your parents about your pregnancy??

posted 11 months ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I found out I was pregnant the week before Thanksgiving. My parents came to visit for the holiday, and we told them that week. It was torture even keeping something from my mom for a few days! We told DH’s mom and her husband over Christmas when I was 9.5 weeks. We will announce to more people around 14 weeks.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We told my parents at 8 weeks after we saw a heartbeat on an ultrasound.  We didn’t tell DH’s until 14 weeks because, we didn’t trust that he wouldn’t tell others and also because he lives far away and we waited until we would see him in person.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

lulu_bell :  I found out I was pregnant the Sunday before Thanksgiving. My parents came to visit that Wednesday (they live 8 hour away) and I knew it would be my only opportunity to tell them in person so I took it. Even though I was only 4 weeks at the time! 

My mom is also a maternity nurse and lactation consultant so I can’t imagine I would have wanted to keep the secret from her for long. 

10 weeks 3 days today and we’ve slowly been letting other family know after we had the ultrasound and saw the great strong heartbeat. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Congrats on your pregnancy 🙂 

with my first we told our parents at 7 weeks. With my second we told at 4 weeks, the reason we did earlier with the second was because we found out a few days before we were visiting my parents for the weekend. We didn’t think we’d see them again in person for a while so seemed like the right time.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

We found out we were pregnant the week of Thanksgiving, but didn’t announce to our parents (or anybody) until Christmas. At that point, I was about 12 weeks. We’ve since told others sparingly in person, but most friends don’t know yet, my work doesn’t know, and we don’t intend to really announce on social media so it’ll mostly just be people finding out once my stomach is too big to deny haha.

Although, I will tell my management personally out of courtesy, but not for another month or so probably.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We told our parents at Christmas this year when I was 10 weeks. That was just the best opportunity to tell them since we were seeing both families within 2 days of each other. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

We found out I was pregnant right around 5 weeks. I couldn’t have an ultrasound until 8 weeks though. So we decided to wait until we saw that everything looked okay before we told anyone. Luckily everything was fine and we told our parents at 9 weeks. Those 4 weeks staying silent though were very hard! Although it was kind of fun knowing my husband and I had this special secret that no one else knew. 

After that, we told other people closer to 12 weeks. Then my plan was to wait until closer to 15 weeks to announce on social media but one of my dad’s cousins blew my cover with something she posted on my wall so I announced at 13 weeks instead. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

both my kids are IVF.

#1, we told my mom the weekend after we found out our beta was positive.  then we told his mom and other close family members after hb was confirmed at 7w.  then we shared the news around 11w

#2, no one knew we were going through treatment again.  my mom, we were at her house for dinner the day we got the call it was positive.  i was ready since i had taken a test a few days before.  we told her and my brother that day.  we told other close family members after hb was confirmed at 7w. then it got out at 9/10w because i wore maternity pants to party and when i bent over to help my son, my shirt crept up a little.  i was ok sharing with those friends at the time.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

lulu_bell :  I shared around 7 weeks. I live very far from my family and was home for Christmas. I felt in that scenario it was worth the risk of telling early. We knew at Thanksgiving but didn’t say a word then (at in-laws). As it happens, my family suspected anyway because I wasn’t talking about it anymore 😛

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My husband I are are going to TTC in early spring, so we just had this conversation on the weekend. For me personally, I want tell immediate family early (honestly, it’ll probably be within a few days of me getting a positive test) because it’s important to me to have the support if by chance there was a loss (I work in pediatrics so while I’m an optimist, I also unfortunately know how common miscarriages can be). I think if that happened, them knowing would also lessen the questions/hints parents inevitably produce, ie “we’d love a grandchild! Are you thinking of trying soon?” etc that might come our way if they didn’t know. Our families also live within 10mins of us, so it is going to be exceptionally hard to see them as often as we do and not say anything!

I think it differs for everyone, so I’d just think about who you’d want to know if something did happen. If you’d want your mom to know either way, I say go for it! 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

It really depends on how close you are to the people you are thinking of telling and how sensitive/supportive you trust them to be in the event that anything goes wrong with the pregnancy.

When/if I get pregnant, I plan to tell my own mom right away. I chart, so this will be at 4 weeks. She has seen me through a CP (Chemical Pregnancy) in the past, and I would want her support if anything happened. 

However, we won’t tell DH’s family until it just can’t be helped (hopefully ~20 weeks, we currently have no plans to see them at all next year) because they are both self-centered, and would just be a burden if anything went wrong. 

DH’s best friend and his wife told us at 8 weeks and then told their own parents at 9 weeks, after they heard the heartbeat at the ultrasound visit. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

We wanted to wait to tell my mom and the ILs until after my first OB appointment at 9+1, but we had a really nice brunch with my mom the day before and felt like it was a special setting to tell her then in person.

We called the ILs after my OB appointment (they live across the country).

If I had had a MC before then (or otherwise really needed their support), I would’ve definitely told them and my best friends about it at that point. What I really didn’t want was for them to get all excited and keep asking me how the baby was doing, and then me have to tell them bad news. I wanted to be able to open up to them on my own terms.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

I told my parents and best friend like the day after I got my BFP, so not even 4 weeks lol. But that’s cause I knew I’d want their support if it went south (which had happened in the past). We waited until 12 weeks after we’d been through multiple ultrasounds and genetic testing had come back clear to announce it to the rest of our family and friends.

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