(Closed) (not wedding related) When did you tell your parents about your pregnancy??

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

DH and I are masters of self control, lol! I got a BFP on Halloween this year but we wanted to wait until all the tests came back ok. That meant getting through Thanksgiving AND Christmas with our families without spilling the beans. I just got my NIPT results back today and everything looks good, so we’ll probably give them the news this weekend at almost 13 weeks.

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I told my sisters at ~14.5 weeks and both our parents at 15 weeks (which happened to be Christmas) – we wanted to tell our families in person and at about the same time and my husbands family lives out of town. Plus my sisters were on a trip to India until ~13.5 weeks – they had suspected earlier on and told me they wanted to know first haha. I told a few more people around 17 weeks and then the rest of cousins etc around 20 weeks after my second ultrasound (because my OB had identified some concerns with my early bloodwork and I wanted to know things were okay before having a ton more people all excited and checking in) and work also ~20-21 weeks 

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017 - France

I told my mother as soon as I realized that I had missed my period. I was already nauseous and feeling sick so she knew something was wrong. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

With my son I waited until I got my NIPT results back at 12 weeks. 

I just had a miscarriage at 9 weeks and I’d only told a couple of my best friends. I’m glad I’d not told my parents. I am very close to them but they would’ve been upset and I’m glad I didn’t need to share that news with them. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Ideally, I would have liked to wait until 12 weeks but we told my parents at 8 weeks since they came over for a weekend to help us move. DH didn’t want me carrying heavy boxes and I was quite sick. So we told them. We told my in laws at 10 weeks because they live states away and we were visiting, so it was a good opportunity. After 12 weeks we told other family (aunts uncles etc). I’m 30 weeks now and haven’t made any social media announcement and don’t intend to

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Both my parents and in-laws live locally. With my first pregnancy, my in-laws asked when I was about 7 weeks and we admitted it. We then told my parents because it wouldn’t have been fair. I got pregnant again earlier this year and we didn’t tell anyone. There was a twin fetal demise at the end of the first trimester and I was fairly glad we hadn’t told anyone. I’m pregnant again and we got the NIPT results back and told our parents that day (11+6) because it just felt like it was time to try to be positive and optimistic (plus we knew the sex and had chosen a name). I assume they will tell some people, but we did remind them that it’s still early. 

…my in-laws were surprised this time. my parents were not. I’ve been pretty clearly putting on weight and drinking decaf so I wasn’t surprised my parents knew.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee

We told them at Christmas because it was the perfect time to announce. I was 5 weeks. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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lulu_bell :  Lol I can relate. I found out a few days before the Fouth of July and I’m one who is always known to have a glass of wine, or at least some kind of drink. So when I was offered wine, I took it and held on to it for awhile. Then I drank water with a lime, so it looked like a vodka soda 🤷🏼‍♀️ It worked for me when I wasn’t ready to tell or answer questions 

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We always tell our close friends and family before 12 weeks. If something goes south, we’d lean on them for support anyway. But, it’s up to you. I’d tell whomever you wish whenever you feel comfortable. So, if you’re into telling your mom now, go for it! Congratulations! 

Post # 27
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Newbee

We waited to tell our parents until after the first OB appointment and ultrasound, which was 8+2. I wanted to make sure I was “actually” pregnant, the dozens of BFP’s I got didn’t convince me well enough! We knew our parents would be beyond excited and didn’t want to “ruin” the surprise if it ended in MC. I know many people value the support they would get from their parents or in laws but for me, I would rather them not know. 

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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lulu_bell :  8 wks for baby #1, after a dating ultrasound, and 10 wks for baby #2 because that’s when it worked out to see each other around Thanksgiving. Congrats! 9 wks is not too early. 🙂 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We only have my mom and I am not terribly close with her, but I still told her around 6 or 7 weeks after I had the pregnancy confirmed at the Dr’s.  I figured if something would happen I would tell her about that and want her support.  I also really needed to tell someone other than DH.  We then told a few other close people like siblings and best friends around 10/11 weeks and did a bigger announcement at 14 weeks. We are due in April! 

Post # 30
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Newbee

As much as I’m struggling not to say anything and feel slightly guilty for not telling our parents, we agreed to wait until 12-13 weeks (I’m almost 9).

If something goes wrong, I’ll let them know especially if I’m having trouble dealing with it.

But we just felt with the history of our friends and relatives miscarrying before the 12 week mark, our best bet was to relax, enjoy the news for ourselves, then start telling once the risk is lower. We know as soon as we announce the questions will come pouring in so we’re enjoying the quiet time ☺️

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