Not wedding related xmas gift for pregnant best friend???

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Honey bee

Honestly, that’s the sort of thing I would let them pick out together to commemorate her pregnancy rather than give.  If it was a family (not an egg) after the baby was born, perhaps, but this early in her pregnancy and they aren’t even telling everyone yet?  Honestly, i would find something else.  My answer might be different if she were much further along and everyone already knew.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

lulu_bell :  I think it is sweet of you to think of them and want to do something nice to celebrate!! Maybe down the road you can gift her something like a pre-natal massage or something baby-specific that can pamper her a little bit?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d maybe hold onto it (if you already bought it), and when she’s 12 weeks and starting to announce it just say “I found this when you first told me you were pregnant, and I was so excited, I had to get it for you.”

Even if you’re giving it to her in February, I think that’s better than giving it to her now and God forbid she miscarries again. Then she’ll be reminded of that when she unpacks her ornaments next year.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

As someone who has lost three pregnancies, Id actually really like something like that. If it was something like baby clothing I would say absolutely not, if something went wrong that would be a horrible reminder. However one of the things I have found most difficult is that its like my babies never existed. So for me, even if the pregnancy didnt work out, an ornamental gift like that would be very meaningful. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I’m glad you’re going to skip it. I do think it’s a very thoughtful idea. We lost our first son in the second trimester and it was devastating. Plus it happened on Christmas Day. I had to go through labor and deliver him. It was so traumatic. I have since had a beautiful and healthy son, but I was fearful all the way through the pregnancy we would lose him, too. I didn’t truly let myself believe he was going to come into the world until he actually did. I would wait, and give her something similar next year once the pregnancy is over.

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