(Closed) NOT what I wanted to see this morning (rant)

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Ugh.  I had some of the dessert I made for a late night craving for breakfast this morning, so I already had a major guilt complex going on…

I was one of those tiny girls with a crazy metabolism, but I promise you… I never made health or lifestyle suggestions.  I think that’s more a personality issue than anything to do with her being thin.  I’m NOT thin anymore and I struggle everyday to eat healthy.  I gave up wearing my favorite jeans a few months ago and it’s been skirts and yoga pants for a while.  I’m comfortable, but there are moments when I feel like a total failure. 

(sorry, OP, I strayed a bit from your original point…)

eta My husband truly struggles with his body type (6’5″, 240-300lbs)  Even as his wife, who has a legit concern with his longevity, I don’t nitpick everything that goes in his mouth.  We can’t focus on the weight and overlook the heart and soul within the body… if that makes sense. 

 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

@EffieTrinket:  I would literally do ANYTHING for a Panera bagel right now!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It can certainly be annoying when people act like the solution to being healthy is so easy. I can see where she was coming from, however. While some people have legitimate problems remaining healthy due to genetics and other conditions, most people are overweight and/or unhealthy due to their own choices. It’s certainly not simple to fix these choices, but it is possible.

ETA: Who posts things like that on Facebook anyway? Do they think that will be a wake up call for some people?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@EffieTrinket:  Thank you so much… yesterday was a rough day and I caved after dinner.  I made some terrible dessert b/c I wanted something sweet and it was just staring at me this morning.  Thank you for the encouragement! 

eta (Apparently, I am among the appropriate audience for the woman’s FB post… having family members and a husband who fall outside that audience, though, makes me sensitive to the assumption she’s making.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@EffieTrinket:  Yes!  My husband gave everything he had to changing his diet, he walked and worked out on a regular schedule and lost an insane amount of weight.  He looked great to me but… even with a restricted (albeit healthy) diet (no sugar, no carbs, no cheating), he did not become “thin”.  Skipping the bag of chips, or the cheeseburgers, didn’t morph him into a different body and he had to deal with that when he got there. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I had a bagel for breakfast at my house. I don’t feel bad about it. Stop feeling bad about eating food. It’s what your body is supposed to do. A bagel = not THAT bad! 4 cheeseburgers = BAD. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@EffieTrinket:  Maybe you do need more cardio/strength training..I see you do practice twice a week..but maybe you could add more? Just an idea.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I have been exercising every day for an hour for months now.  I haven’t lost any weight, just gained some muscle mass (I am heavier now, lol). I never eat any junk, pop, processed foods, pre-made frozen meals, etc. Still eating everything fresh and making meals properly at home have not shifted my weight down. I have a lot more energy and I am a happier person because of exercising. So, I am keeping this lifestyle because it works for me, not because my dress size is decreasing.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@EffieTrinket:  That really stinks. Some people have no idea about the disorders which can cause you to gain or keep on weight, and they judge based on their ignorance. I don’t wanna thread jack, but have they tried medicating you for it? I know for some it can be helpful.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ll play devil’s advocate: it is easy… calories in vs. calories out.  

Having said that, I have struggled with my weight my entire life, because the right choice is not always the choice I want to make.  I have finally come to a place where I’ve been able to maintain a healthy weight for years, but not without effort.  I constantly have to monitor what I eat vs. what activity I do.  However, I know when I am making “bad” choices that I am making them and that I must do something active to counteract that bad food choice or eat less/better to counteract the bad exercise choice.  

Last month, I cut all oil, all dairy, all meat, and all processed/refined foods from my diet.  I haven’t struggled since; the pounds have melted off, and it’s truly easy.  Healthy food goes in, I work out 3-4 times per week, and I stay happy, healthy, full, and slim. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am not really overweight – I am at the very highest end of my BMI for my height, but I do not have a thin build. I gain weight in my boobs and stomach SO easily.

Being very short, it is really frustrating that in order to be thin and not have a belly I have to eat almost nothing, in tiny portions, and even then I only see results when I start to work out a lot. Recently, with working full-time, and going to school, that has not happened.

Man, and it is so obnoxious to work out beside FI, and watch him burn through 3x as many calories as I can in an hour – because he is so much bigger!

I also have a hard time working my abs because I have scar tissue across my stomach from surgery as a baby (I had pyloric stenosis).  Tons of crunches, no results = total frustration.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve been trying to eat with moderation and have lost eight lbs. Do you have any idea what a serving size of chips even is?! Ifim gonna eat chips, there is no moderation bwahaha!

On another note, my fi doesn’t moderate at all, do it is even harder trying to be healthy while he eats four slices of pizza, a bag of breadsticks and some chocolate.

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