(Closed) Not what I was expecting for Christmas :(

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
13248 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Aww, I’m sorry!  While I think what he did was cruel, I don’t think he was intending to hurt you.  Like you said, he thought it was funny.  I don’t think he was trying to hurt you.  Once you calm down a bit, though, I’d mention to him that you thought toying with your emotions like that was out of line, and you’d like an apology…

Post # 4
32 posts

I would be so angry!! Does he do things like this often?

Post # 5
8483 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

That sucks!! Guys are often morons and dont get these things. I dont think he meant any harm in it. He’s just being clueless.

Post # 6
1075 posts
Bumble bee

What a jerk, he owes you an apology! I would be furious if my SO pulled something like that, jokes at a partner’s expense over something that’s so important are not cool and he should know better. 

Post # 8
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Sorry, but if he got pleasure out of doing that to you, he’s an ass. That was cruel.

Post # 9
1848 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

PP hit on what I was saying – some men don’t realize how important marriage is to their women. They don’t understand “waiting” because they aren’t waiting themselves!

I’m sorry this happened to you…that was really mean. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 10
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

OH man!!  ๐Ÿ™  I’m so sorry to hear this.  Men have really weird senses of humor – they just don’t get it sometimes. 

Post # 11
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Gorjuss:  payback’s a bitch. I’m sure the bees can help you come up with something to get him back.

Post # 12
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

He probably doesn’t understand how sensitive this subject is for you. You need to sit him down and tell him that waiting is very tough emotionally and joking around about it is extremely hurtful. Tell him that you are okay with waiting but he needs to not joke or hint about engagement until it’s actually happening.

Post # 13
9887 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@JoolyBee:  Hehe.  My thoughts exactly.

 @Gorjuss:  I wonder how he’d feel if you got all dressed up in some sexy lingerie, whipped out a bottle of lube, danced around, made him think he was in for a night of pleasure and a fabulous blow job … then go into the bathroom and return wearing flannel pajamas and your hair in curlers, cold cream all over your face (get the green stuff) and say, “Ha!  I was just kiddng.  Sorry.”  ๐Ÿ˜‰

Seriously.  He was being an ass.  However, if he’s not usually a total jerk then maybe he has a New Year’s Eve surprise in store for you to make up for it!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Sunfire:  boom, there ya go…it’s pay back time, blue balls style ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
2934 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

That is VERY cruel; I can’t believe he would do that to someone he’s supposed to love. How horrible. I think you should sit him down and tell him that these are NOT the actions of someone loving, that he hurt your feelings terribly and that he’s NEVER to do it again. Ask how he’d feel if you hinted for weeks about a car and then gave him a Matchbox car and laughed about it. You have EVERY right to be incredibly hurt. This is the kind of thing that damages relationships long-term — was that his goal? Was it worth the laugh to him, knowing that it resulted in you feeling that he’s mean and untrustworthy, and that this is something you will remember him doing for years, and every time you think of it you’ll be sad and hurt? I doubt he considered all this, but it’s something he should be told so that he can grasp the enormity of what he did. If I were you I would be seriously reconsidering whether he’s the right man for you. Frown

Post # 16
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Hit him with the cold shoulder!

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