Post # 1
I work a 8-5 job that requires me to work some, well alot, of weekends. I have told people my weekend availibility is limited until after mid-August (aka after the wedding). Am I being unreasonable?
I work in Information Technology.
I might not have things planned per se, but I don’t really want to wake up at 7am on a Sunday morning after being up late the night before working on wedding things.
Post # 3
@coffeegal85: I think that is completely appropriate. Setting boundries is super important, especially at a time like this.
Post # 4
Does your limiting your hours mean someone else will have to pick up the slack and work extra, or does it just affect you?
If the former, I’d say it’s a little unreasonable, but if no one else has to cover the times you’re not working I say go for it 🙂
Post # 5
@MrsWrangler: I’m not limiting my hours per se..I would still be working my 40 hour weeks, but yes, someone would have to do my work (actually, it is my team’s work) for me on the weekend. This work is supposed to be done by them anyways, but I’ve been just trying to help after the departure of their team member. I just don’t want to “help out” anymore on the weekends with my wedding so close.
Post # 6
@coffeegal85: Oh, if it’s not really your work and you’re just “helping out” that’s different and probably good to draw those boundaries anyway.
My husband’s work rotates Saturdays and if someone were to refuse to work those days, he’d be forced to work those days more often to make up for their absence, which I don’t think is fair. So that’s what I was coming from, but it doesn’t appear to be the case for you!
Post # 7
I think that is perfectly reasonable, and it’s good to set boundaries regarding after-hours availability if it’s not part of your regular work schedule.
I’m taking 3 weeks off for my wedding, and because I’m an attorney with court deadlines that are not flexible, a lot of my work will have to be reassigned. That’s just the way it works – sometimes I take reassignments from others, sometimes they have to take reassignments from me. No guilt here!!!
Post # 8
@MrsWrangler: Oh I totally get where you are coming from.
I worked every weekend from the end of December until the end of April. The other people didn’t. I feel like its their turn now, especially since I’m planning my big day! I just feel bad, because my unavailability along with everyone else’s unavailability is making its way up the management chain. Oh well…
ETA: My management has known about my impending wedding for 1.5 years now.
Post # 9
Shew…I was feeling bad for telling the girls that I couldn’t work this Saturday because it is the weekend before the wedding. I’m glad that I am not the only one.
Post # 10
@tobikay: 1 weekend is totally reasonable. You shouldn’t feel bad at all.
Post # 11
wow. no. dont let your self feel guilty about this.
this is a busy time and you have to take care of yourself, or else everything, wedding, relationship, home, work, will suffer.
take care of YOU!
Post # 12
No don’t worry about it you should be fine!