(Closed) Not yet engaged… dream dress being DISCONTINUED! Buy?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I buy the dress before I'm even engaged?

    BUY IT - that's a damn good deal and it might not be around when you get engaged!

    DON'T BUY IT - only crazy bees buy dresses before they're engaged, duh! You'll find something else.

    Other -- explain.

  • Post # 77
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    Buzzing bee

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    @ceebree:  I got my dress 3 years before we got engaged. Still loved it on my wedding day!

    Post # 78
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2016

    BUY IT!! Even if you don’t like it, you’re only out $200, not that big of a deal in the whole big picture. If your mind does change you can always try to sell it and make a little back from it. 

    Post # 79
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2019 - City, State

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    @Dorian5:  

    I’d buy it and resell if you change your mind That is a pretty popular suggestion from the comments and totally reasonable In My Humble Opinion. You don’t want to kick yourself later, but perhaps stash it at a relative’s place and don’t tell him.

    My only reservation would be if you have female relatives who would feel ‘done out’ of the traditional dress shopping (and how about you – would you feel you had missed out on that?).

    Post # 80
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Dorian5:  DO IT! Seriously. Even IF he’s not the guy, which I doubt is the case, you can wear it for your future wedding. Go ahead, BUY YOUR WEDDING GOWN !!! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 81
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    Bumble bee

    I used to work in the wedding world and saw this happen a lot. About 20% of brides were actually happy with the decision that they made. The rest either treid to return the dress once they had a date, felt it didn’t go with the venue, felt too excited and made a decision that they regretted, felt like they missed out or were ‘cheated’ out of the actual wedding dress experience, wanted to exchange the dress, which you cannot do if it’s been discontinued, felt pressure from their friends to look around and ended up either unhappy, confused, or with more than one dress.

    That being said I ended up in the same situation as you, although the proposal was not as open. My dream dress was discontinued and massively on sale, actually it had been discontinued for a few years, and I still managed to get it new :).

    I would go and try it on, and take it from there. Go by yourself or with a very trusted friend (sorry but I would leave mom out of this one, she seems so excited and happy that I think she would really push you into buying the dress), let the consultant know you only want to try on that one dress and stay firm. Try it on, take some photos and walk away seeing how you feel about it. If you are still dreaming of the dress then go for it, if not, then leave it be. Honestly I’ve see the dress, and I find it to be a little underwhelming in person (I’m sorry just personal opinnion) the ruffles out the side are great, but the back is just plain, the dress seems to lack flow, although looks amazing in the photo. Once you know your size ask how many are avalible throughout the country (you can always order it from another store) in something close to your size (keep in mind the dress can be altered up or down two sizes).

    Lastly it sounds like you have such an open relationship with your soon to be Fiance, tell him about it and see what he thinks. He might encourage you as well, and I think it would be way easier to make a move with or without his blessing.

    Also do you have an idea what kind of wedding you two want? Would it fit what you think you are going for?

    Post # 82
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Buy it! $200 is such a steal!

    Worst case senario, you can re-sell it for $200 if not more! ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

    Post # 83
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I didnt make the whole amount back, but a good chunk of it. It was enough to pay for my new dress. So it worked out in the end.

    Post # 84
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    Buzzing bee

    Buy it! It’s not like it’s a huge sum of money. It’s $200, and you could at least make back a portion of that if you decided not to use it once you are planning.

    Post # 85
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you don’t like it or engagement is taken longer than expected or it doesn’t fit your venue, etc etc……at  that price you can sell it

    Post # 86
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Normally, I would be against this 1000%. The only reason why I am not is because he took an heirloom diamond to be set into another ring and you guys have set a date. Also, the dress is only $200 and since you are not hurting for money, you are not going broke. It can also be altered when the engagement does happen. 

    This is a unique situation because you know money has been put on the ring and you two have set a date and discussed this in detail. If this dress was expensive, I would have said no… If there was no real expected proposal, ring pirchased, etc I would absolutely say no. 

    If you truly love this dress and would marry in it, no matter to when or to whom then you can keep it. I have heard on a few occasions that a woman bought a dress, things did not work out, and she kept it and married in it when she met the right guy. If all else fails you could sell it. It is very pretty. Best of luck to you!

    Post # 87
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    You and I are in the same boat!!! I fell in love with my precious dress while looking for dresses online for my sisters wedding. She got married summer of 2012. Last summer (2013), I checked on the dress on the David’s Bridal site and it was on clearance for $725, down from $1200. I was afraid it would be gone by the time I got my ring, but my boyfriend thought they’d have plenty left. Well a few weeks went by and I was freaking out still and he told me to call them to see what they had available. Only 2 stors in Illinois still had any and the sizes were very limited. Online had none in my size, or even close to my size. They only had the floor samples left. He told me to go try it on and that he would buy it (indirectly) if I still loved it. So I did and purchased it, then he reimbursed my account for the balance. (He doesn’t want to see the dress in person). He didn’t want me to feel like the crazy chick that bought a dress before the ring, so the solution was for him to buy it.

     

    Why don’t you talk to your FH about it? He may be totally on board with you getting it.  When I told him my number 2 dress has several thosand more than my number 1 dress, he was totally on board. My dress is now sitting in the closet waiting for the big day. ๐Ÿ™‚

     

    Another Bee told me she was searching for my dress, but can’t find anymore. ๐Ÿ™ Im glad I got my dress, and your’s is at such a good price, why not?

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