(Closed) not yet married

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1059 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t have any advice but just wanted to send good vibes your way!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know it’s hard… but I’d probably move on if I were in your shoes.

Post # 5
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2448 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yikes, he got married during your off times and he still won’t marry you? I’d move on – this man is bad news.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

11 years is a long time to be off and on again with someone.  Why do you think its going to work this time?  What has changed?  Generally, off again on again relationships do not work in the long run. 

I think its time for you to move on and find someone who really wants to be with you.  This guy broke up with you and married someone else.  That’s a pretty clear sign from the universe that this wasn’t meant to be. 

Personally, I’d run screaming from a man who was off again on again with me AND had two failed marriages.  Talk about commitment issues.  

Post # 7
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1106 posts
Bumble bee

 What @lawyerchick13 said – this is a bad news bear unless there’s something else you haven’t told us yet.

Post # 9
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3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@stillwaiting123:  Alright mama, Here’s the skinny. This man isn’t valueing you. Saying he wont go anywhere unless you pay all the time is unacceptable. Especially if he makes 2x you do. A real man ALWAYS wants to treat his lady like a queen, reguardless of age. You are in the same age range as my mom (just turned 53 but looks 35) and I say you still have SO MUCH TIME left. It isn’t like 300 years ago where you weren’t expected to last much longer after 50….you can live and love for at least another 30-40 years, maybe more if you are healthy. Would you want to spend another 30 years with someone who doesn’t make you feel ALIVE, Loved and Valued?

I Love my parents…very much…BUT if my parents were ever to separate, I know they would be able to find suitable partners find happiness with. Because everyone deserves happiness. If you were 25 We wouldn’t tell you to settle. If you were 35 We wouldn’t tell you to settle. If you were 45 We wouldn’t tell you to settle. Why should you have to settle at 50. 

Go find you happiness. *hugs* and lots of love

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

im 52 and getting married next year…we have been together for 5 years now…what you are talking about sounds like my first marriage – abusive…

my fiance and I are super happy and he is my best friend, we are looking forward to getting married and becoming committed…he pays for everything and I save my money and that is how he likes it – sex – twice a month…not acceptable – my advice – please move on…

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Don’t waste anymore time with him. You WILL find a guy who values you and treats you right.In all honesty I don’t consider 50 to be old and definitely not too old to fall in love. Have faith in yourself. Maybe you need some time to focus on you, especially since you’re kids have all moved out. Get pedicures regularly, make sure you’re eating well and exercising regularly. It’ll make you feel so much better! When I started doing that I learned to value myself more, I learned I’m much stronger than I thought I was.

Live your life, be happy, and you will find someone when you least expect it.

=] 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think you should find someone better.

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