(Closed) Not your Parish

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m doing a Catholic wedding at Church that is not the one I belong to. I had to do the marriage prep with my parish and they are writing a letter granting permission for us to get married at another church.

You can find a church that will marry you even if its a destination wedding. Some might be a little more difficult but its do-able

Post # 4
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I would recommend choosing a location destination location that has a Church that does these types of weddings.  It involves a lot of extra paperwork.  You can not plan this through a travel agency and because of the paperwork involved, contacting just any church in the city/country you want to marry in simply because you want to marry there will likely be met with resistance. 

The only location I know of that regularly does this sort of thing is Rome.


Here is what they say on their website about what you will need to do.

“The most important step couples need to take is to begin the process with their own pastor. It all begins with your home parish where you worship. All marriage preparation, initial interviews and documents come from there. The couple needs to mention any previous marriage (please note that an annulment may be required even if one of the couple is not Catholic, and even if the first marriage was in a civil setting only.) It is a good idea to begin the process at least one year prior to the desired wedding date. Most parishes (world-wide) require a waiting period of at least six months (sometimes more) before the intended wedding date to determine whether there may be impediments to the marriage, and whether it is appropriate for the couple to be married in a Catholic ceremony.

After the parish priest completes all the documentation, the local chancery (diocesan office) must give a Nihil Obstat in order for the wedding to take place here. For Santa Susanna Church, we need your documens at least two months in advance. However, to avoid disappointment, it is best to plan early, to establish schedules well in advance and to check with the Paulist Fathers that all procedures are in order. For St. Peter’s Basilica, please read over the St. Peter’s guidelines very very carefully, as it is increasingly difficult to be married there and not everyone is able to do so. “

Post # 5
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I know that some churches charge more for non-parishioners than parishioners, so be prepared for that.  Our parish church isn’t the prettiest, and there is a VERY pretty one just a little further away from us that we looked into getting married at.  They were charging $300 for regular parishioners, and $1400(!!!) for non-parioshioners, which is insane to me.  It wasn’t even a downtown basilica or anything like that.  Needless to say, we’re going with our local parish, and have decided that the looks of the church aren’t what’s important – the service happening inside is.

Post # 6
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Since this is destination wedding, they might be open to waiving the wedding prep session at their parish. 

My sister changed her plan half way through the planning (maybe 6 months prior) and needed to pick another local parish.  So there were a lot of paperwork involved.  Not that she needs to prove the current counseling she has is equivelant to the one she wants to get married at.  I personally believe all the counseling teaches the same thing, so it really doesn’t matter as long as you complete the sessions.  However, they end up didn’t want to review it (which was months later) and she ends up have to complete the sessions at her parish + scrambling time for additional prepping sessions at the new parish + all the fees at the new parish that she wouldn’t have to pay if she married at her parish. It did throw her budget off a little bit.

So DOUBLE CHECK with the one you want to have the ceremony at and MAKE SURE you get everything in writing clearly.  From what I see, they don’t always stick to what they promise you and can mess up your plan later on.  For example, you talk to one guy and they said it’s fine.   Then days later another guy talked to you and said something different.  They said no, so how can you argue?  Trust me, all your potential concern will become a concern later on.  Better ask up front. 


Good luck.


Post # 7
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@eperez21:  Same.

We got married in a different state than my parish however my parish took care of all the pre-cana stuff and just passed my info along to the diocease where I was getting married.

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