(Closed) Note of caution: helping out another member (long)

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Member
1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry, but what is this referring to? From what I’m reading, you’re mentioning something that happened a few years ago on another website? I guess I missed something, or I’m just not following….

Post # 4
Member
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@WineAndCupcakes: She’s referring to the efforts started to help MrsSoontoBeAB, a bee who had to cancel her wedding due to financial issues related to surgery. A lot of bees have decided to donate money, supplies, or other needs…

You can read about it here:

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/wedding-postponed-indefinitely

and here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/help-out-soontobemrsa

Post # 5
Member
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Cola262: I understand what you are saying. And I agree with you. While I dont think SoontobeMrsA would ever take advantage of anything I think its better to protect oneself than not. I think offering help in the form of donating leftover wedding items like decor, dress, accessories, etc is the best way to help. Maybe if you live close by offering your “services” of helping put together DIY invitations or something along those lines. I think the bottom line is to just use your own best judgment and only help in a way that you feel comfortable with.

Post # 6
Member
5761 posts
Bee Keeper

@Cola262: Wow…that’s some story, and I agree that people need to exercise caution when dealing with online personalities.

Post # 7
Member
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I totally agree that setting up a Paypal fund is taking it too far. SoontobeMrs.A seems like a lovely person, but is obviously not truly hurting financially, just unable to fund a $12,000 wedding.

But I think it’s great if everyone could donate FREE/used stuff or make something if they live nearby and don’t see the harm in it. It would be fun to see a project like that come to life!

Post # 8
Member
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@KatyElle:  “SoontobeMrs.A seems like a lovely person, but is obviously not truly hurting financially, just unable to fund a $12,000 wedding.”

I agree with this.

Post # 10
Member
1738 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think a Paypal accout might be a bit much, but if people wanted to contribute financially, you can always buy VISA or other gift cards that can be used anywhere a credit card is accepted.  It would require a bit less personal information from everyone, epsecially if the giftee has a PO box.  Otherwise, I agree that donating decor and other things could help. 

Post # 11
Member
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am in agreement. And yes, you do have to be careful with who you deal with on the internet.

Post # 12
Member
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

Wait? What?

In no way, shape, or form do I want anyone to donate any money at all!

I thought this was Bees who had extra stuff, talents or ideas who wanted to help us out. This was never my intention is posting about the postponed wedding. I was honestly just looking for a sympathetic ear.

 

 

Post # 13
Member
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

@sceeder: Ouch! I may have been in an accident but I don’t look that bad!

Post # 14
Member
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@SoontobeMrsA: It wasn’t meant towards you. General stranger danger Public Service Announcement. 

Post # 15
Member
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Wow, I dont think SoontobeMrsA had these intensions at ALL! She was just looking for sympathy, and ideas to help her still have her dream wedding. 

This thread is uncalled for, and will prolly upset a lot of  bees on here. If other bees want to help SoontobeMrsA, then let them and stay out of it if you dont think its right.

Post # 16
Member
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@SoontobeMrsA: Oh I dont think you are asking for money at all!! In fact, you did not set up the thread to help you out – someone else did out of the kindness of their heart. I was also under the impression that it was more about helping out in small ways (leftover craft supplies, fake flowers, jewelry, etc) than money. I understood that you were just looking for a sympathetic ear. I think the woman who posted this thread is just saying that sometimes things start out innocently but can turn into something more and get out of hand. Its the internet so I think she was just saying be careful and be smart. You have done nothing wrong!

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