(Closed) Nothing in Commin…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

haha I could go on and on about Fiance and I’s list as well. The most important aspect of a marriage/ relationship is compromise. This is how our relationships are tested. The most important relationships are the one’s worth fighting for. 

Post # 4
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Not really sure why this worries you? If you have been together long enough to be engaged then shouldnt you know that it works out even though you are opposites?

Post # 6
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think we all have our differences, it helps balance us and allows us to see a larger view of the world than just our own. As long as your fundemental beliefs are similar and you want the same things out of life than I think you can make the little differences work. Do you both agree on wanting or not wanting kids and ideas on how to raise them?

The only difference you mentioned that I think could be a concern is where you want to live. Would you be okay living in Florida forever? Would he be okay moving up North if you were able to get a good job or something? I have a friend who split up with her husband and one of the reasons (not the only one) was he wanted to live in a rural area/small town and she wanted to be a in big city and eventually end up in New York.

If you are concerned, be sure to talk about things and make sure you are in agreement or willing to compromise, and be happy, about the big ones. Preferring cats or dogs shouldn’t define your relationship.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m glad you brought this up, b/c I was talking recently to my friend who got divorced 4 years ago and she was saying how one of their problems was the fact that they had nothing in common. I am still totally perplexed by her statement, the examples she gave were things like you said, going to bed with/without TV on, condo vs. house with yard, etc. I mean, I understand how this could create a small problem, but things like those can be easily worked through adn not to get judgy, but IMO it almost sounds like they just gave up instead of working on it and trying to compromose.

When Darling Husband and I differ on our opinion about something like that, we 100% of the time work through it and arrive at a mutually acceptable conclusion. That’s the only solution: meet in the middle. Darling Husband likes to stay up late during the week and get up early (he only needs like 5 hours of sleep I am so jealous), but by 10:00 I’m falling asleep on the couch. So instead of fighting about what we’re going to do, he tucks me in and joins me later on. And he prefers condo life while I want  a house with a yard, so our compromise is to wait a few years before making the move. It’s not a big deal to me because I want to be with him more than I want my big house, and we’re meeting in the middle.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Fiance and i are so opposite! But we even each other out and he’s my best friend so we know how to compromise with each other. Differences like that shouldnt be a make or break it for your realationship. My Fiance loves dogs and i love cats, he hates cats. So, we got a dog and a cat will probably never step foot in our house.. and im ok with that! Little things like that dont bother me when I know he’s the person i want to spend the rest of my life with.

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