(Closed) Nothing in life is fair.

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@lalalalinzii: Ahh i know just how you feel. When i was waiting my now DHs best friends Girlfriend (DH’s ex-gf) texted ME to say she was engaged..i was crushed and cried and threw the phone.

 

I look back on that moment now and think of how silly i was. and i am sure one day you will feel the same when you look back on this post.

 

Things do happen for a reason and your time will come. Maybe he did get the ring, i cant see why his friend would remember and make a comment if it was just a hair dryer…but who knows.

 

Chin up! Christmas is on its way.

 

I hope you feel better ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@lalalalinzii: awww i’m sorry. i know it’s such a sinking feeling, especially when you’ve done so well in your patience/waiting…

let it out, be emotional, and be jealous… then shake it all out of your system… and get back to your positive vibes/thinking…

i just KNOW it’s coming and as much as the waiting hurts and is annoying… believe me — from a married bee — it truly is the best part! the big day and everything with it flies by SO fast… enjoy it all! the nervousness, the madness, the sadness, etc ๐Ÿ™‚ it will come soon!

Post # 7
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Thats rough. I know EXACTLY how you feel.

Before we were engaged, we set up one of my best friends with one of FI’s best friends. They hit it off and 6 months into their relationship they were engaged. At this point Fiance and I were at the 4 year mark and I had some serious engagement fever. Dealing with that was probably one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do (and it didnt help that I was a bridesmaid and Fiance was a groomsman). I admit it, I was a total bitch though the whole ordeal but now I look back on it and wish that I would have just dealt with it and been happy for them. The only advice I can give you is to try to deal with it as amicably as you can. You’re time will come. Mine did! 

Post # 9
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@lalalalinzii: We do have two pretty major holidays coming up, ya know! 

ETA: Something else I should have mentioned before, after our friends engagement and Fiance seeing the emotional toll it took on me, he started to seriously think about our engagement more and more. He saw how much it bothered me and the fact that I said “it should be me” about a bazillion times pretty much confirmed it all. I will say that it sounds like you are taking their news better than I took my friends. We were driving home from work and they called us. When I hung up the phone I screamed. Like not a little scream, but a possessed demonesque scream. I also may or may not have floored it and ran a red light (or two) in a fit of fury. Amazingly FI’s still marrying me so there is hope! =) 

Post # 10
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@lalalalinzii: your not being selfish at all. This is something you want, and usually the girls want it before the guys but its a two way street so patience is a virtue.

Just know…you are NOT selfish….:) 

Post # 11
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have no advice, but just stay positive. 

Post # 13
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

OH NO! I don’t have much new advice. Maybe he is trying to trick you… but maybe not.  Just keep yourself busy and distracted. My fingers are crossed for you that he’s got plans up his sleeve, and plans for the NEAR future. 

Post # 14
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with PP … scream yell and get it all out of your system.  I did that Thursday night and was a total walking Bitch at work on friday just for fun.  Thank god i have a good friend at work who said to stop.  It will happen and we went out and got some of that new Baskin Robbins Red Velvet Cake icecream, and today I feel a TON better.  I really did wallow in the sorrow for a full day.  I KNOW that helped … no on to positive vibes!

Post # 15
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594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Well I agree…get out the shouts… and then carry on…

YOu know how life is

 

As soon as you stop thinking about something

BAM!

It happens

Post # 16
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

๐Ÿ™ That’s rough. If it makes you feel any better though, a week after my boyfriend bought my ring, my brother proposed to his girlfriend of 2 months.

 

TWO. Months.

 

Which, so as not to steal FSIL’s thunder, pretty much meant our engagement would have to wait. Even though WE’VE been together 2 and 1/2 years. [Quick aside: Not as long as many people on the waiting list, I know, but I’m from a teeny tiny town in the South. Dating longer than 2 years without an engagement is a bit unusual here. Leads to unwelcome questions about whether the milk is being gotten for free, haha.]

 

Fast forward a few months to today…the ring’s still in a safety deposit box instead of on my finger. ๐Ÿ™ Torture. The only perk is that now my Boyfriend or Best Friend calls himself my pre-ancé. XD

 

Keep your chin up, it’ll happen!

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