(Closed) nothing is ever simple!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Your parents have been extremely uncaring to do this to you. I agree you should probably have a smaller elopment ceremony. That doesn’t mean you can’t have your close friends and family (who have been there for you!) there. And elopement doesn’t mean giving everything up! Wear your gown, get your hair & makeup done, hire a photographer, have dinner, eat cake, dance! Do everything you ever wanted just on a smaller scale. Don’t let them ruin everything for you, that’s not fair to you or your partner. Your plans have changed & that’s ok, you can still have an AMAZING wedding! Best of luck to you.

Post # 4
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3303 posts
Sugar bee

Sorry to hear…. Be happy that you are now married and spending your life with your husband.

Post # 5
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393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@charlotteross2bee:  Your parents are being very immature. What ever happened between your mom and dad is between them and honestly however upset his new wife may be, she shouldn’t be causing drama. Ugh. “Grown Ups” should stop acting so immature.

I think you should still plan something even if it’s small. If wearing a white dress, getting your makeup done, eating cake and all that stuff is going to make you happy, then you should do it. I understand how your parents are, making it difficult but there are still others who will be happy to celebrate with you. πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

 i dont know what ive done

You shouldnt be swapping gossip between your mom and stepmom, its highschool and you should know no good would have come from it as you betrayed your stepmoms privacy and trust in repeating her conversation knowing it would cause drama.

In future if either side begins to discuss the other you say loudly that you will not discuss the other person as its not fair to you and for god sake stop repeating what one says to the other, you are only fuelling it

Everyone is being immature but now you know where the line is. Going forward you are about to start your own nuclear family with your husband so focus on that. 

Post # 8
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh, I’m so sorry this happened. People can be incredibly immature.

I don’t think you should give up your wedding if that’s what you want! Tell your mom and your dad and his wife that you’re done with their drama, and if they want to attend, that means behaving like adults, and one more snarky, sniping remark out of any of them and they can all stay home. (And do it! πŸ™‚

And I don’t think an intimate ceremony with just you guys and your kids and some close friends sounds bad at all. I’d probably prefer that, myself. πŸ™‚ You have plenty of time to plan a lovely wedding, and just because it’s small doesn’t mean no cake or dresses. (One of the huge advantages of a smaller wedding is you suddenly have a much larger choice of reception locations too. It’s much easier to put 20 people in a private room at your favorite restaurant than 80. πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Isn’t it great when you get to that point where you are more mature than your parents? *sigh*. It seems like your parents need to get over themselves and realize that you are the important person for this day, not their petty arguements.

I wouldn’t elope, unless you want to. If you do, make it special! Many a weddings have been extremely beautiful, elegent and charming elopements or very small weddings.

When you go dress shopping next time, is there someone else you can take? And aunt? Friend? Your kids? I think that you need to refocus on YOU and ignore the drama to find a dress that makes you feel as beautiful as you are.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@charlotteross2bee:  Yay for the dress…

 

AND OMFG I wish there were more castles in Canada. 😐

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