Post # 1
FI and I have been struggling with this problem for a long time. We have NO idea what to get our parents as a thank you gift for the wedding.
Our wedding is August 1, so I only have about 4 weeks to pull something together! They have done so much for us, it always seems like no gift is good enough to show our appreciation for everything they’ve given.
Not only that, but we have to also consider the following limitations:
- Both sets of parents are trying to downsize now that they’re empty-nesters, so I don’t want to give them more stuff to fill houses they’re trying to leave.
- We’re also going to be giving each set of parents an album full of pictures at our separate receptions later in September, so I’m trying to avoid giving them more pictures.
- The mothers are already receiving sets of pearls for their dresses, so jewelry would be an overkill.
What did you give your parents? Was it something really sentimental or just something they needed/wanted. If it was special, why was it super special to you guys?
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens
We got married Saturday and haven’t figured out what to get for our parents yet! I’m thinking that I might have a chef go to my parents house and cook a special meal for them . . . And we might get a spa day/golf day for my FIL & SMIL. Still not sure what to do for MIL yet, ack! We got her a massage for her birthday a few months ago, and she liked that, so we’re thinking perhaps something along those lines . . . We’ll get them photos of the wedding, of course, but we don’t have the pro pics back yet (obviously . . .). Perhaps you could give them a special experience?
Post # 3
I always give vouchers for nice restaurants in the area for friends or family who have no space for more stuff. Make sure it’s enough to cover two peoples dinner (at least2 courses) plus a bottle of wine if they drink, so at least they are unlikely to need to spend anything extra.
Post # 4
- Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club
There are a lot if personalized gifts in etsy but I feel like they either turn your wedding into a shrine or will end up packed in a box. We are doing jewlry for the moms, I’ve been looking at pendants but haven’t purchased yet. for dad’s we are getting them watches and I will probably have something engraved on my dad’s. I feel like jewelry is long lasting and can carry sentimental value even if they don’t wear it everyday.
Post # 5
JackiBean: A gift card for a night at a romantic B&B for their anniversary?
Post # 6
We are getting our parents a rose bush each that they can plant in the garden as a reminder of the day, plus a photo album of the day. I think a special “experience day” would be good for your parents if they don’t want stuff.
Post # 7
hyzenthlay: Haha! I think we might find ourselves in this situation too. There is absolutely nothing that has sounded like a good enough gift for them and they’re so damn picky about things they like (at least my parents anyway). I tried finding some performances my FMIL and FFIL could go see, but I don’t know if that’s something they’d be excited about as a gift for a wedding. These are really good ideas though, thank you!
ms-tea: julies1949: I thought about these, but my parents are well off enough to go to restaurants beyond my wildest dreams on a weekly basis. Anything I could afford and give them would just be a joke. His parents don’t really put much value in food or going out to eat, so I had to toss this idea too. WHY IS THIS SO HARD!?!!? Thank you for your ideas, though. If it were me receiving these gifts, these would be my favorite. I LOVE getting to try new restaurants and B&Bs.
amoore2: I like the watches idea! But I know my dad and my FFIL would probably never wear them! My dad is on a health kick and got one of those pedometer/calorie counting watches that he’s obsessed with. I don’t know about FFIL, maybe that might work for him! Thank you!
Audrey2: That’s a sweet idea! I actually thought about doing a bonzai tree since both the dads LOVE gardening (FFIL is a landscape architecht), but they are also traveling from different parts of the country to be at this wedding, and I don’t want to make them travel with a delicate tree… but maybe I’ll ship it to them! And write something about a family tree!! Great idea!
OK! This is really good feedback! Thank you so much for all the responses so far!
Post # 8
JackiBean: We are giving each set of parents a bottle of our favorite wine but I am going to customize the labels. It will have the wine information, but also our names and wedding date. The back label will be messages from us. I am writing to his mom and dad/step-mom and Mr. S is writing to my parents. Our parents all enjoy a good bottle of wine though so we thought this would be nice. We also got my parents a gift card to a nice restaurant as an extra thank you for helping us fund the wedding. They never get a date night so I’m hoping they’ll go if we’ve paid for it!
Post # 9
Maybe their gift could be a grandchild? Just kidding. We are doing a really nice wedding album for our families and then renting a house for a group vacation together for a weekend. For some people it means more for them to spend time with thier children and to know that they are appreciated than to receive an item. Maybe even just go to their places and cook dinner and help them with yard work for a weekend? It sounds like both of your parents are well off and do not need much in the aspect of material things so time together NOT doing wedding stuff might be welcomed. 🙂
Post # 10
JackiBean: It sounds like you could talk yourself out of anything.
Are they still close to the people who were their maid (matron) of honor and Best Man?
You could contact them and arrange for them to surprise them with a get together in the near future.
Post # 11
fall2014: Hahaha! julies1949: might say I’m trying to once again talk myself out of everything, but honestly, my mom doesn’t want me having kids (she is a huge supporter of CBC lifestyle). FI’s older sister is expecting twins, so FMIL is all taken care of in the baby department.
Can you see why I’m having so many problems! I feel like this should be super super special, but nothing is cutting it!
But renting a house for a group vacation actually sounds like a GREAT idea. We live in Hawaii, so renting a house might be a great way to get everyone together again to celebrate! We were thinking about having everyone over between Christmas and New Years anyway!
I love this idea!
Soon2BeMrsS: That’s a really sweet idea. Definitely doing that for the sisters!
Thanks again, everyone! Great ideas!
Post # 12
My parents had a super lame wedding “album.” I took all their photos, scanned them, and made a Mixbook. They were really surprised and loved it! We also got married the day before their 35th wedding anniversary, so it was really special.