(Closed) Some waiting jealousy.. Sister too?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How jealous were you that ppl were getting engaged around you?
    a little : (29 votes)
    43 %
    not much at all : (5 votes)
    7 %
    too much :( : (25 votes)
    37 %
    none at all : (8 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    538 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    For me somedays are better than others.. but I mostly have better days ๐Ÿ™‚ You just have to stay positive.

    Post # 4
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    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think I only got jealous because the girls getting married were VERY young and they were the materialistic type… Meaning… Having a wedding, getting married, pregnant, and having a baby were all just ‘the trendy thing to do’. It’s sad, really. I was only jealous because I knew how special marriage and children really were, and I truely want a husband to spend the rest of my life with, and have a family.

    Gwen

    Post # 5
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    1026 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @ravenwait:Jealousy is being 33 and all your friends are working on their 2nd kid and you still aren’t engaged. Oh I guess that is just bitterness LOL

    Post # 6
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    685 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @travellingfool:  LOL

    @GwenvonD:  I can so relate to that too!  My cousin’s wife was like that.  I truly want to be with the man I love and start a family.  It seemed like it was “trendy.”

    I have my bad days.  This summer was the worst though.  All my close friends and family, that are near my age, got a engaged and picked wedding dates for next year.  I basically told my boyfriend that, “We better be engaged before (my best friend’s) wedding in May!”  LOL… I know it’s petty and makes me bitter but sometimes it really does sucks when someone else has what you want.  I’ve started to appreciate what I have more than what someone else has, but like I said I have my bad days too ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 7
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    1278 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I dont know if it is jealousy, but certainly frustration! The only ones that have really hurt was when my younger cousin got engaged. She had been with her boyfriend for less time, wasn’t working at all, and he was only working part time. Because we were waiting for financial reasons it was annoying because other people were rushing in to things without even giving a thought to the financial side!

    Post # 8
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    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @travellingfool: OMG, story of my LIFE!! Some people just don’t realize how lucky they are.

    Gwen.

    Post # 9
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    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    hmmm. one of my good friends got engaged this year and i was super happy for her, no jealousy at all. however, i think it depends on who the person is, your relationship to them etc. my 20 year old cousin just told me a few months ago she thinks she and her boyfriend will get engaged in the next year or so. i don’t think i’ll be jealous if she gets engaged before me, i’d be happy for her. But i’d wish that it was both us.also i would not be thrilled with the comments that would surely come from from my traditional and at times annoying family who clearly expects me (the oldest) to get married first. some of them already think i’m an old maid- my 73 yr old grandma told me she’s not dying until i get married and have kids. HAHAHA. my mom told her she’s going to have to hang on for a few years.

    Post # 10
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    667 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @CupcakeLove: That totally sounds like my situation! My cousin just got married though so maybe the wedding talk will subside a bit.

    I totally understand about being jealous. My younger cousin got engaged and married before me so it sucked having to hear all the details about their wedding. I was happy for them but it still hurt. These past few months really sucked since all the events happened: shower, rehearsal dinner, wedding. their wedding was fun but I’m glad it’s over and I don’t have to feel so bad all the time.

    Hang in there, your time will come soon and it will be great ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 11
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    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Everyone in my family (with the exception of my 19yr. old cousin) is married and have kids. I am the second oldest of all of them. I know it’s not a race, but after a while, you kinda feel silly not moving onto that part of your life and you’re so much older than the rest of them. I’m 31yrs. old. I don’t exactly have all the time in the world to have kids like they do. Ugh.

    Post # 13
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I get the slight “why not me” feeling, but the wedding itself is quite fun and I do feel genuinely happy for them.

    I know it will be our turns soon enough – and good things come to those who wait and appreciate the wedding more for it!

    Post # 14
    Member
    429 posts
    Helper bee

    it will happen !!! stay positive and enjoy your time with your so in the mean time

    Post # 16
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    24 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    None at all actually.. I didn’t think I would get engaged at 24 (the day I turned 24 actually) and very few of my friends are engaged or married, not many of them are in relationships at all! I feel young to get married at 25, I don’t think I’ve had time to be jealous.

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