Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2017 - Santa Margarita Ranch
I know so many of us post things like this, so hopefully it doesn’t cause too many eye rolls…
Day one of my LMP was 12/27. AF was supposed to be here on 1/24, but I still have yet to get it or any other signs of it.
I took two generic pregnancy test strips on Friday 1/25 and had two very faint positives. Then on Saturday morning (yesterday) had a noticeable 2nd line with a FRER. Today (Sunday), I tested again on the FRER had a fainter 2nd line (Saturday on top, Sunday 1/27 on bottom).
On Thursday-Saturday, I was feeling nauseous, had constant general abdominal discomfort, some pale brown discharge, headaches, and fairly consistent moderate cramping on and off those days as well. Today (Sunday) I no longer feel nauseous or have the cramping/stomach discomfort.
Are all these things signs of a chemical? I emailed my doctor today, but since it’s Sunday probably won’t get a response until tomorrow.
Post # 2
You are so early in your pregnancy that it is completely normal not to experience constant symptoms.
If dipstick tests were so sensitive that they could detect a miscarriage overnight, we wouldn’t need US scans or beta HCG tests. The thickness of the line doesn’t mean anything – maybe you drank a bit more on Sunday, or you waited a bit longer to pee on Saturday, or it was a random fluctuation. There is no need to continue testing, either with urine or blood. There’s no reason whatsoever to think your tiny baby isn’t thriving – stop looking for one, or you’ll blow little things out of proportion!
You are pregnant, and it’s the only info the test can give you.
Post # 3
RThorn : all depends really I have had three early miscarriages back to back and all of my lines went lighter so for me that’s a sign mind you it is very possible to have extremely diluted vs concentrated urine.. but if you know when you do ovulate and you are technically late for your period I would honestly imagine a stronger line by now in my experience
Post # 4
Were you using FMU? One thing you could do is just take a few days don’t test and see if your period is coming (chemical) or if the test is darker. Having had chemicals and miscarriages, it could nothing, or it could be something else. But I think you are fine.
Post # 5
It could be a chemical BUT it’s worth noting that the lines on tests can appear darker as they dry. It’s possible that the lines will look very similar tomorrow morning once today’s test has time to dry down.
It’s hard but I would wait until Tuesday to test again. If it’s a chemical (fingers crossed that it’s not) it will probably be significantly lighter. If your HCG is rising normally (knock on wood!) it should be much darker.
I hope it all works out for you! I’ve been there. Once it was a miscarriage and one turned into my one year old. It’s still so early that all you can do is wait and keep testing.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2017 - Santa Margarita Ranch
Thank you so much for your support last weekend.
Unfortunately, after spotting and passing a couple small, dark brown clots a few times during the day on Monday, I woke up to heavy bleeding and lots of cramping Tuesday morning.
Emailed my Kaiser doc, and they called me a couple hours later telling me to come in for an appointment at 2:30. Urine HcG was super negative and had an ultrasound that showed a completely clear uterus and tubes (thankfully!).
Doc said I was bleeding quite a bit so did some bloodwork and said I lost a good bit of blood and I’m on iron for the next couple of weeks. He thinks it was a chemical. I’m just happy they snuck me in without me having to push too hard for an appointment – better safe than sorry!
It hit me a lot harder emotionally than I expected. The noticeable positive was on DH’s birthday and also about a couple weeks after the passing of his grandfather. If this pregnancy had stuck, baby would have been born almost exactly 9 months after his grandfather passed away. Seeing the BFP on Saturday felt very significant spiritually for me and Darling Husband, so it was hard when I started feeling things slip away.
I’m super grateful though for an amazing Darling Husband, and coworkers who stepped in for me no questions asked and covered for me for a couple of days.
Thank you again for all of your kind words and support. Looking forward to future BFP’s! 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
I’m sorry to hear that, bee 🙁 It sounds like you have a great medical team around you. Onwards and upwards to the next cycle. Best of luck!
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica
I’m so sorry for your loss. I suffered a chemical in October- similar to you- the lighter test followed by cramps, spotting, then full-blown heavy AF. I’m so happy the doctor was able to see you right away and confirm your uterus was clear!! If it makes you feel any better, my body went straight into a normal cycle after that CP period I had. Hugs to you and good luck trying again.
Post # 9
RThorn : Thinking of you dear. 💜
Post # 11
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please make sure you give yourself time to grieve if needed. So many people feel that early losses are just a “cluster of cells” and are totally fine emotionally. And that is completely ok to not have had an emotional attachment. But it can make it even more isolating for those who are hit harder than expected. While I was a little further along than you (6 weeks), I was devastated by my miscarriage. I was met with words like “oh well something was probably wrong with it anyway so…”. For me, that wasn’t comforting even though people were meaning to be supportive. What I angrily thought in my mind (though I never said it because I knew they meant well and didn’t know WHAT to respond with), was that my mind rationalizes this by thinking that is was my CHILD and if anything was wrong with him or her I would love the baby just the same. But I didn’t want to be defensive, I know this wasn’t logical, and also people were just trying to make me feel better. But the process was very isolating. It hurts me to answer a number different from how many living children I have when a doctor asks how many times I’ve been pregnant. It just hit me really heavy. It took me 2 years of mourning and reaching deep within my faith to forgive myself and move on. Now, when I say 2 years, I was not walking around a mess and not functioning. I went on with my day and worked, etc. This was an internal battle. I’m only sharing it to let you know that whatever you’re feeling is ok, let yourself feel it and do what you need to in order to heal emotionally. You mentioned it hitting you harder than expected so I just wanted to let you know I understand completely. I hope you’re blessed with a rainbow baby soon ❤️
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2020 - Las Vegas, NV
Big hugs to you I know what you are going through as I miscarrried myself on Christmas Eve last year which was the day after we told our family.
Post # 13
So, so sorry bee. Wishing you all the absolute best for the future.
Post # 14
Sorry to hear this, hugs and best of luck for next cycle x
Post # 15
So sorry for your loss. I still get times of mourning my chemical 18 months on, although they are far lesss now. For the first few weeks I was especially more sensitive and cried easily. Take it easy and be good to yourself.