- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2012
Ladies, I have a concern about seeing my dad at Easter. We’re not telling family that early. He does this thing everytime he sees me where he squishes my stomach and then lifts me up in the air and holds me there. I think it’s his idea of a really enthusiastic hug. I don’t like it at all, it feels less like he’s putting on a show of power and control over me. He’s 400-ish lbs and well over 6 ft tall, whereas I’m only 5’10 and 150. He has four kids and I’m the only one he does this to. He’s got some mental health problems and clinical depression and he never listens when I tell him not to – it seems to make him want to do it more. For obvious reasons I really really don’t want it now more than ever. His mom and dad (my grandma and grandpa) will be around but they have never sided with me in instances where he has tried to physically restrain me somewhere, even as an adult. I need some advice, I don’t know what to do. I can and will talk about my concerns with DH but I don’t want to let my family in yet on what’s going on.