Post # 1
Planning has been in a lull for a month for me, and after a brief respite from all the wedding craziness, I’m now beginning to get nervous about the whole thing! It’s all those little details that are hitting me now, and I’m worried I’ll miss some and that the day will be a real bummer because of it. Little things keep bugging me, like the fact that the church won’t let us use candles, the fact that our lighting company cannot do what I had been hoping they could do, the fact that our venue’s house wine is terrible, and the fact that my clever seating plan will probably not seat all the guests we may have. This last one is compounded by the fact that Fiance still hasn’t finalized his in-country guest list. We over-ordered invitations, but still… stress.
It’s not like things aren’t done. Dress has arrived at the shop for fittings, invites are printed (and out-of-country ones have been sent), venues, caterers, florist, band, lighting people, rental company, and officiant have been booked, and a lot of other little details are done (menu is decided, order of service is worked-out, housing for relatives is sorted, etc.).
I keep battling this feeling that we’re going to be throwing a bunch of money at an event that’s going to be dreadfully mediocre. I worry that my dress is too plain, our venue is too blah, our food will be “meh,” our decor will be less-than-impressive… Anyone else in this boat? Maybe I’m just overreaching here, but I want this to be a special day, and I’m worried it’s just going to be bland and boring for everyone!
Post # 3
I get like that sometimes. But then I have to step back and realize if I stripped everything away I would still be the happiest girl on 11/4 bc I am marrying the man of my dreams AND get to party with our most favorite people. It can’t be mediocre if you have great company 🙂
Post # 4
@UK Bride: Just try to relax! You’re day will be amazing…even if the wine isn’t fabulous 🙂
I get nervous sometimes, but I also know that those little details will never ruin the night. I know we’re having good music and food, so that alone will make it awesome. We have amazing friends and unbelievable families, and everyone will be there to celebrate us! So what if the seating arrangement is less than perfect? Everyone will still have fun, promise!
Post # 5
Ya I think the same way sometimes. But a lot of things I have to do can get done in a day so I’ll take a Sunday here and there to get them done. A little at a time! You will be fine, I promise!
Post # 6
I was feeling the same exact way yesterday… I got home from work and looked at the pile of wedding stuff I haven’t touched in over a month. I was so anxious about it I finally had to talk to someone and of course my Future Mother-In-Law was to the rescue! She said take the time to write a list of everything I have done, then a list of everything you need to get done, and then a list of things you would like to get done but don’t have to get done if there is no time. It was nice to see that I had more things done than I actually have to do!
My shower is this coming Saturday so I’m not letting myself do anything until after that!
Post # 7
@Sah: oh, that’s a good idea! I may do that, just to get my brain out on paper… I think part of the problem is that I’ve got a few newly-engaged friends who are just beginning the planning process, and I’m second-guessing all of my decisions as I’m with them hearing their cool plans. Oh, to have not picked out a dress yet…
Post # 8
I know how you feel! I have been out of the state for two months and so planning has been put on hold. I can’t wait to get back and be in the thick of things. Especially since I will be really busy right up to the wedding, time should fly! I’m worried about the little things right now too, like the fact that my caterer won’t return my emails :O it is frustrating.
Post # 9
I’m starting to freak out like that too! I already know our caterer is bad (unfortunately, it’s the only caterer we could use for our venue. boo. but i loved the venue so much!). we are also on a VERY strict budget! But all that matters to me is that my family and friends are there to help support and celebrate the biggest day of my life. It’s a rollercoaster ride till the actual day! You got go with the ups and downs and just remember that everyone (including your hubby to be) are just so happy for you!!