(Closed) November POAS Part 2

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 407
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Worker bee

Just talked to my dr regarding beta hcg test, it was less than 1. Ughhhhhhhh. Where is AF?! I’ve never been this late before. I know stress can alter your cycle, definitely been stressed. 

Oh well. Guess we’ll try again when AF makes her appearance! Ha 

Post # 409
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

canhorsegal :  Definitely a BFP!  Congratulations!!!

 

And I love the discussion about what to do AFTER we have babies.  I’m a lawyer and DH is also a lawyer and I can’t imagine either of us deciding to stay at home.  I get 4.5 months off paid, and can take up to a year off unpaid, although I think that may hurt my chances at partner promotion if I extend leave too long.  I plan on definitely taking the full 4.5 months off and then seeing where I’m at.  A lot of women take about 6 months and then come back.  I can choose to come back at 80% or full time.  Depending on when I come back in the calendar year I’ll make a call on which to choose.  Our billable year is from November 1 – October 31, so I’ll take that into consideration.

Lord.  Childcare.  We have two daycares close to us and I haven’t even looked into how pricey they are.  Lots of women here do nannyshares/nannies for the first year or two and then move to daycare.  I’ll have to see what we can find.  OR I could have a TOTAL change of heart and want to stay at home, but I’m not banking on it.

Post # 411
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Sugar bee

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whitemochi622 :  Ugghhhggh. It is the WORST when people start throwing around comments like that after a loss /losses 🙁 It is bad enough already when you’re just TTC.

With a bit of luck you’ll have those rooms filled soon enough 😊 FX!

Post # 413
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Sugar bee

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amanda1988 :  Yeah  $85 USD is probably average. Apparently it can go right up to $200 AUD / $150 USD depending on the suburb. We worked out it’d be at least $50k AUD a year (@ $110 AUD a day per child) to have 2 in childcare  (WITH rebates!!!). 

We are looking to move to a rural area so it’ll be interesting to see how it pans out with childcare places and costs compared to our current location.

ETA we want 2 and would prefer them to be close together (if we’re lucky!!!??) so childcare will hurt. Alot. If both of us are working fulltime. Unless I get grandma in on the childcare action 😛 

Post # 414
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Sugar bee

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amanda1988 :  Oh I’ve moved past giving nice answers and changing the topic now lol…

I’m at the point of:  ‘And whhhhyyyy is this any of your business?”, “We don’t want kids”, “Do you wanna know when we fucked and what position we were in too?” 😂😈 

Post # 415
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2022 - Maui

The only people who donʻt know weʻre ttc is his family but he doesnʻt care. My friends are a tight circle with no sercrets so we tell each other these things and my parents are super supportive and close to us so they know weʻre starting to try. I keep it casual like “NTNP talk” and everyone has been super good about it. Iʻm not private though so I can see where that can be hard. Also, weʻre not married yet so the baby question isnʻt obvious to people who arenʻt close to us thankgoodness thatʻs one perk. 

Post # 416
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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amanda1988 :  Don’t lose hope!  AFs can get super messed up after CMs.  My fingers are crossed for you!!

Post # 417
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Sugar bee

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danakxox :  Yeah. I can tell you it is intense when you’re newly married. Like holy fuck… I even have people looking at my stomach area and giving me “the look”. Ugh!!!!

The only people who know we are TTC is my sister, my best friend and a friend who I met on the bee. I dunno if DH has told any of his friends. He definitely hasn’t told anyone in his fam (he’s under strict instruction to not tell his brother ANYTHING).

 

Post # 419
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2022 - Maui

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RaccoonKitty :  oh yes!! i was actually maried once and it was constant; in retrospect i think it went towards my decision to do the baby thing first this time around. I remember we posted a pic of us out to dinner and he put his hand on my stomach (i had a 6pack at the time, not an ounce of pooch or fat at all) and FB went wild with the baby stuff haha my now-FI has told his co-workers that weʻre trying but they are basically his family and they know weʻre engaged but not planning a wedding exaclty right now. Also, its super culturally normal here to have a baby before getting married so iʻve only been side-eyed by a few. My dad wants us to get married probably the most but I think heʻs also proud of how much Iʻve grown so he sees where Iʻm coming from.

Post # 420
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Sugar bee

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danakxox :  Only our immediate fams know about the ectopic and surgery. My lower stomach pooches out now and there have been comments that I look like I’m showing. Luckily (for THEM) it wasnt said to me,  but it got back to me. I will give the next person a nice big piece of my mind… RaccoonKitty is done being nice when it comes to comments about pregnancy and babies directed at her. 

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