Now he wants to call the guy

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Worker bee

You let him call Tim 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

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throwawayaccount001 :  you be grateful that he is even willing to be in the same vicinity as you 10 minutes after that news?? what are you afraid of?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

At this point, you let him call tim. Would you not be emotionally absolutely losing your shit if your positions were reversed and he didn’t want you speaking to the woman because he already blocked her? 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Let him call him. Having been on the other end of an exact situation myself I understand your fiance’s need to do this. Being reluctant to let him will make your fiancé think you’re hiding something – whether it’s something more happened or that you wish to stay in touch. 

Show your fiancé he comes before Tim. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

If you want your relationship to survive (it may or may not), he needs to call Tim. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee

Just be honest Bee, was there more that happened than what you’re telling? 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I agree with PPs. Let him call.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

I wouldn’t let him call him.  His issue is with you.  You knew you were engaged, yet chose to communicate with Tim.  You and your fiance need to work it out.  Not your fiance and Tim.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

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throwawayaccount001 :   After what he has just heard, I would just let him call Tim.  Is he going to get a ear bashing? Yes.  But to be honest I think that is the least he should get, after hitting on someone’s fiance and continued to persist in it. I think you are just lucky that he is so understanding of the situation and wishes to continue on without that much backlash.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Yeah, this is ridiculous and childish. You two have the problem, not Tim. Leave him out of it. Work out your feelings between yourselves like adults. Bunch of macho bullshit. I’m shocked other people think this is a good idea! Grow up. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
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PaperQueen :  I absolutely agree with you on this. But if op refuses to let him call Tim, then he may think that she has something to hide.  

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

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anev :  Even if she has something to hide, it is not Tim’s issue to help them solve.  He should not be involved in this at all.  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

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anev :  It doesn’t matter if he thinks she has something to hide. Getting this other guy involved would only escalate the drama. Instead of him yelling at this dude on the phone and her getting all weepy, which I readily assume will happen, and then them both having THAT memory to deal with in addition to everything else, they could just calmly and honestly discuss things between themselves, which is generally the best way to go about these things. This dude didn’t MAKE her do anything, so it’s not as though he really “needs a talking to.”

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Let him call, or break up with him.

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