Post # 1
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Busy bee
DH have been seriously discussing a baby for the past 6 months, last month we officially decided we should “try” or rather “try not to prevent it”, DH has been wanting one for awhile, but I’ve tried to be reasonable with finances and our living situation so it took me a little longer to get there. We literally had sex one time without him pulling out (we’ve used the pull and pray method for the past 7 years with out so much as a scare.) I think in my mind I figured it would have to take at least a few months, but nope, this morning after being 3 days late I took a pregnancy test and that double line showed up immediately. I told DH who was thrilled but I began crying and then felt like a terrible person because I was crying.
I feel like we planned it and if you would have asked me yesterday how I’d feel about it I would have told you I was hoping for a baby, but the reality of the situation just came crashing down on me when I saw those pink lines. Anyone else feel like this? Is this normal? I’m just kind of freaking out right now feeling like we should have waited a few more months.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
@cora_123: Awww, it’s ok. It’s normal to have some mixed feelings. You will come around. It can be really scary to get into something new. It’s already happened, it’s a wonderful, beautiful thing. In time you will come to realize that. Wait til you hear the heartbeat for the first time. And see those baby toes on the ultrasound. Oh and when you get your baby bump. It’s really exciting. I was so upset when I got pregnant with my 5th (yes 5th! I was not planning on having a 5th at all) I cried for days. But then I got over it, realized that it was way too late to change my mind and I was just as happy about that baby as I was about the first four. He’s 6 now and the light of my life. Of course I love the other 4 kids too, but the last one just stole my heart and I can’t believe I was ever upset that he was coming. You’ll get there too.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I felt exactly the same!! It doesn’t really feel like it will happen in the near future until you get your BFP so I definitely felt overwhelmed at first. We got our BFP the first cycle off Paragard so I was not expecting it so soon, we started totally expecting a long wait! Today (just found out last night) I have just been trying to relax and not overthink anything and just be as happy as possible! I think it’s totally normal to feel this way, don’t worry!! Congrats to you Mama!!
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
@cora_123: I could have written this myself right down to using the POM for so long. I’ve been on the phone all day if feels trying to situate things with my insurance company and it’s just so overwhelming. I don’t have much advice other thatn to say, you’re not alone!
Post # 6
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Honey bee
I absolutely felt this way when I first got my positive pregnancy test. I even had the thought that “so many fetuses miscarry in very early pregnancy so maybe that will happen to me and we can do this again later like we were supposed to.” Now I’m almost 7 months and I can’t believe there was ever a time when I thought I wouldn’t be ready for this baby! Just remember, nine months is an ETERNITY and by the time your baby actually pops out, this way you’re feeling now will be such a distant memory. Nobody is ever truly READY to be pregnant/become a parent; it just happens and then you deal with it. You will be fine and happy in no time!!!
Post # 7
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Honey bee
I think even when I feel like I’m as ready as I can be, when I read that positive test I will be an emotional mess. It’s just a long (9 months) emotional process, and then of course, raising him or her! And there’s no going back! It can be really scary, the unknowns. So don’t be too hard on yourself!
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
@cora_123: It’s totally normal to feel unsure and overwhelmed! This happened to my mom when she found out she was pregnant with my brother. Now he’s completely changed our worlds in the most amazing way- he’s such a blessing. I can’t imagine how boring our lives would be without him!
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
We TTC’d for 5 months before conceiving and I still got that feeling both times. We have a 3 year old and am pregnant again.
It’s totally normal and I think it’s a sign of you taking the life change seriously. It’s a big step and will change a lot so it’s very normal to be afraid of the unknown.
Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
Totally normal don’t worry! You’ll be surprised how quickly you’ll become excited and attached. Congrats!!
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
When I got my last BFP I was legitimately upset. It was planned, I should have been happy but the only feeling I had was one of dread. After a couple of days I eventually came around & started feeling good about the pregnancy. I hope you do too; if not though definitely talk to someone about it. I’ve seen a lot of women struggle with depression durring pregnancy & it’s really awful!
Post # 12
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Busy bee
cora_123: DH and I did exactly what you guys did. We didn’t try but we didn’t prevent it. When those lines showed up, I cried…more out of fear than happiness. My DH was ecstatic and I felt like a b*tch for being upset. I sat on the couch for two days in shock. I had a hard time for a few weeks but once I had my first doctor’s appointment and heard that heartbeat, all that went away. Everyday I wake up, I appreciate more that I am pregnant. I am only 11 weeks but it sank in. Give yourself some time to get used to what’s happening. You will get through this, and yes, it’s a normal reaction 😉
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
@cora_123: awwww… it’s ok. Consider yourself lucky to have a sweet partner who is totally supportive, and to not have had any troubles conceiving! (you’ll probably get there)
crying seems a totally normal reaction. this is a BIG deal, no two ways around it.
really, what difference would a couple more months have made?
think of it this way: you both opened yourselves up to the possibility, which set off a chain reaction in the universal energy flow. The spirit of your unborn child who had been waiting for you to be ready jumped at the chance! it’s clearly meant to be.
best wishes!!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
COMPLETELY normal to feel like this! I thought I would experience sheer joy when I got a positive test, I mean, we were trying for a baby, right? I felt pretty guilty when the number one thing going through my mind when I saw the 2 lines was: omg! what have we done?! Then when I was miserably nauseous in the first trimester, I kept thinking that more often than I was thinking about how happy I was. I still have times when I almost wish we would have waited longer, too, but the closer I get to the end, the more excited I get! There’s really no perfect time to have a first baby, often you just have to take the plunge like you guys did. It’ll all work out and you will never have imagined your lives as being any different in about a year 🙂
Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
@cora_123: We WERE trying, had unprotected sex a LOT, I wanted a baby more than anything, and I STILL freaked when I got my BFP!
It’s terrifying that you can just “make” a baby! This new person that I’m going to be 90% in charge of, and will shape into an adult, and I freaked a little. Even though I’m SO happy!
It’s TOTALLY natural.
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
We TTC for 19 cycles and desperately wanted a baby. And even still… when I actually saw that positive test it was like…. HOLY CRAP, WHAT HAVE WE GOTTEN OURSELVES INTO.
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