Post # 1
Have you ever been to a wedding that, well, stunk? It wasn’t fun, you didn’t get it, the dancing was minimal. But talking to the bride (or groom) afterwards, they had the best time and thought it was amazing? I’d never disagree with them but I wondered how the bride/groom could have such a different perspective than the guests?
Now I understand.
I didn;t have a sucky wedding. I had my shower. And I had a fantastic time! All my friends were there, I was laughing, talking, playing silly games- I thought it was a super fun party time! I was in a completely different world. I can only imagine how much more a person is removed at their wedding.
Did my shower suck? I have no clue. I was in a bubble. Will my wedding suck? Who knows, but one thing is for sure- I won’t know!
Post # 3
I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been to a couple weddings where I was incredibly bored, couldn’t wait to leave and get some real food, etc., but then I would look over at the bride and she was absolutely beaming and having a wonderful time. Sometimes just seeing how happy the couple is will make up for a lot of other problems with a wedding.
So yeah, I hope my wedding is great for all the guests, but I also hope that if it isn’t, I’m blissfully ignorant!
Post # 5
I think, too, that no one party style is going to match the taste of 100+ guests. My FI and I are low-key partiers. If we have a few drinks while sitting around with friends and playing cards, that’s a wild night. Usually we just don’t drink at all, and we don’t go to bars. The most dancing we do is a beginners line dance where an old guy talks you through the steps to a whole host of country songs. It’s actually a lot of fun and a lot of young people go, so don’t let the description fool you! But… obviously, it’s not like a rockin’ dance party atmosphere. And even though it’s all I want, I could see just a dinner being boring to people who are more into partying. We’re not. We like to just hang out.
I think part of that boredom probably comes from being the A- list, as I’ll call it. You’re not quite B list because you really are friends with the bride and groom, not an obligation invite. But you’re the periphery friends, like through work or from back in college. Close enough to want to celebrate but not close enough to be totally engrossed in the reception, the kind of guests that will form their own little group and mingle because the B&G are probably super busy with family and the A list and while they stopped by to make sure they said hello and possibly came over for a drink, they’ve still got tons of other people to visit! It’s just a theory.
We’re getting around that by only inviting 50 people and doing it our way anyway!
Post # 6
Amaryllis- I do understand difference in personalities and althought I love the party dance atmosphere, I usually chill and hang out. But the one wedding I was referring to… Mid-wedding, the bride’s family changed into football jerseys and put on the game while people were trying to dance. Then one of the groom’s friend wrote a song for the couple and performed it. It was awful and torture for everyone except: bride, groom, the guy singing and his band, the guy’s wife. The wedding band gave up trying to get people to dance. And we, the guests, had no clue what was going on. I had fun hanging out with friends, but as a wedding goes, it was awful! But my friend was glowing and had the best time. She loved that her family didn’t miss the game and that their friend wrote a song…All I can say, is good for her!! And hopefully, good for me and everyone else!! Better to be a happily blind than a furious bridezilla!
Post # 7
I love this, and yet it really scares me! I’ve been planning so much to make sure everyone has a great time…. I guess it’s true that you can’t please everyone though
Post # 8
This has totally freaked me out because I thought our wedding was AMAZING but I am convinced that it was horrible and people just didn’t let on!! Oh, well. They have their weddings to do what they want with!
Post # 9
I went to a wedding where the band was absolutely horrible! They played maybe 2 decent songs and everyone got up and danced. Then they stopped and started playing sucky music again and everyone sat down. Weird. Aren’t they supposed to feel out that sort of thing?
Post # 10
The last wedding I attended was just beyond horrible. It was SO boring and I could not wait to leave. I later talked to the bride and groom and they thought they held the party of the century. I was shocked because I didn’t even think THEY had a good time. Now I’m having mini-panic attacks hoping my own wedding isn’t boring. My MOH/sister has assured me it won’t be bad but I’m still nervous! I don’t want people to be as board as I was…
Post # 11
The worst wedding I ever went to involved too many drunken people. I think you avoid what you as the bride consider the be the worst and go with the flow on everything else.
Post # 12
I think another thing that can give the bride a better image of her wedding is pride. The bride may just not want to admit that her wedding wasn’t very fun, because she was so invested in the planning.
I didn’t have a great time at my SIL and brother’s wedding, yet they thought it was a blast.
Post # 13
You know some brides have different ideas on how their wedding is going to be. I won’t be having dancing and wouldn’t if I even had the money to rent out a huge venue. I don’t dance and I don’t party. I don’t drink and we’re having a dry ceremony. It’s just different for each bride. I’m inviting friends to share the event and memory, not to party and no offense, my main concern is my future husband and not so much about how enjoyable the event is for everyone other than us. Yes, I take into consideration food, hotel accomodations, and how to make my guests most comfortable. I guess I’m just trying to speak up for the brides who have a different idea of how they want their wedding.
Post # 14
I think a lot of people over plan a wedding and it takes the fun out of it. If you plan it because thats the way you want it and have no concern for your guests then it can be boring. Keep it simple. The only thing I ever remember from a wedding is: the food, the drinks, the brides dress and the dancing. I couldn’t tell you what was on a table and I couldn’t tell you what people were wearing. If I remember that I danced, that I had lots of drinks and the food was good then that was a successful wedding to me.
Post # 15
wow now i’m scared everyone will think our wedding sucks because it will be at church without dancing period just some food and friends…
Post # 16
@ashleykaye15: Your wedding won’t suck. Don’t worry about what other people think b/c it’s your and your fiance’s day! Enjoy it!