(Closed) Now I’m nervous – Invite SO’s to Rehearsal Dinner?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it bad NOT to invite Siginificant Others to the Rehearsal Dinner?
    No its not bad - they'll be at the wedding and there isn't anything for them to do during the rehear : (9 votes)
    16 %
    Yes - its bad. Its disrespectful to your bridal party : (37 votes)
    66 %
    I'm mixed - I understand why you would or wouldn't - I'm just not sure : (10 votes)
    18 %
    Better option posted below!!! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    if anyone in your bridal party is married, engaged, or living with a so, it’s very rude to not invite the so.

    if the so’s don’t fit into any of those categories, it’s nice to invite them but not necessarily required. if that’s the case, you should explain to your bridal party why you couldn’t invite them.

    Post # 4
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    We invited the SOs to the rehearsal dinner (although not random plus ones when they were invited to the wedding). They met us at the restaurant, not at the rehearsal itself, so it doesn’t need to reveal any secrets!

    I do think it’s better to invite SOs, for the same reason you invite them to the wedding: they are a social unit and should usually be extended joint invitations. I would definitely not leave off spouses or fiance(e)s. Not sure about other SOs; that could be a little more open if absolutely necessary.

    Post # 5
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    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If they SO is coming to the wedding they must be invited to the rehearsal dinner.  That doesn’t mean they have to go to the rehearsal themselves.  Our bridal party’s SO’s all carpooled together to the dinner and met us there.  It’s really not much of a “thank you” to your bridal party if you host a dinner where their significant others are not invited to join them.

    Post # 6
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    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Like PPs, you don’t need to invite them to the actual rehearsal, but you really should invite them to the dinner…. especially if anyone in your party is married, engaged, or living with SO. I would be a bit miffed if I was in a wedding and Fiance wasn’t invited to the rehearsal dinner…

    Post # 7
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    njm how many people are in your bridal party? Is it really going to add that much on to the bill at the restaurant?

    I’d explain the ettiquette to your Future Mother-In-Law and maybe offer to pay yourself if she’s not willing?

    Post # 9
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    54 posts
    Worker bee

    i definitely think SO’s should be invited to the dinner, but they can hang out in the hotel for an hour or however long the rehearsal takes. if they are from out of town, it’s likely that they will be traveling with the bridesmaid/groomsmen and would be bored the whole night eating by themselves otherwise

    Post # 10
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I don’t know, I don’t think you need to invite them to the dinner. I would understand if I wasn’t invited or if my husband wasn’t. If one of us isn’t in the party, then they don’t NEED to be there. I would always prefer that we’re both invited, but I’d get if we weren’t.

    Post # 11
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    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    You dont need to invite them to either, but I think it would be nice.

    A rehearsal dinner is the people in the rehearsal and immediate family traditionally. I went to a rehearsal dinner recently and no SO’s were invited. It was perfectly OK.

    Post # 12
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    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    No, I think they DO need to be invited.  It’s like any other dinner you’d be inviting those particular bridal party members to.  Would you invite them to a dinner party and not include their SO?  Probably not.  This is along the same lines.  

    I do agree that they don’t need to come to the actual rehearsal, though.  I see you’ve already decided to go ahead and invite them.  Good on you.  🙂

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