- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Greetings, hive 🙂
Have you ever had a terrible expereince as a bridesmaid or MOH? Have you ever been in a wedding, and dreaded every second? Or worried the entire time trying not to set off the bride, MOB, other bridesmaids, etc? I was in a doozy a few years back, and I’m just wondering if anyone else had a simillar situation. I had to drive 3 hours to each and every wedding dress fitting, (I believe there was 3), and 6 hours to actually find the dress. I went to two showers, both about 4 hours from the city where I live (I was also expected to make a “weekend” of it and ended up staying 1 night each time). When trying on the dress for the first time, the soon-to-be-bride claims to have heard a ripping sound and said “what the hell did you just do?”…as we’re in the change room together and everyone outside can hear her talking to me like this. I planned out the bachelorette party to a T, only to have another bridesmaid bring her new boyfriend along…and he proceeded to talk/dance/occupy the bride all night. (In retrospect, what was wrong with the bride to allow herself to give all her attention to him?) At one point us girls were all sitting at a table at a nightclub while the bride to be was on the dancefloor with this guy and his girlfriend! The night of bachelorette party I stayed at her place and went to set 2 throw pillows on the floor so I could lay down and go to sleep and she snapped “do you know how much those cost? those pillows are expensive, they don’t go on the floor!” During the entire time I was planning the bachelorette party, her mother was emailing me asking what else I needed done, what she could help me with, and it later came out that she wanted to make sure I was on top of things…she felt that by asking me questions and sending emails she was not letting this party “flop”. (My friends and family make fun of me for my incredibly organized way of living, the joke is, “MrsD’s whole life is planned out in a spreadsheet”. I’m also very creative and DIY is my favorite, without a doubt I had it under control!)
The mother of the bride stated that SHE should have just been in the wedding party because she “had to do everything anyway” and when, on the afternoon before the wedding, I asked if I could do anything last minute to help out, the MOB snapped “where were you 2 weeks ago?” knowing full well I helped out with this process right along. During the “dollar dance” at the reception, the bride yelled at me “Mrs. D, MOVE” because I was standing over about 2 feet from where she wanted me to stand (once again, in front of everyone, quite humiliating)…
On the night before the wedding I was asked to stay with the bride at her home. I had brought Fiance (who was then my bf) with me for the weekend, and had just paid for a hotel room and drove over 4 hours. I ended up leaving Fiance at the hotel and staying with her, sleeping on her couch. At the reception, I was sitting with a group of friends eating a piece of cake…it was a few hours into the reception and some people were already starting to leave…the MOB came up to me and said “what are you doing, just sitting here eating? *Bride* has to go to the bathroom, don’t you think you should help her?” I was mortified and probably could have cried right there but didn’t want to make myself MORE mortified.
The time that they spent on their honeymoon was a relief for me, because I needed a break from all this. Upon their return she invited me over to sit and look through each and every picture they took on vacation…and against my better judgement, I went. This included seeing the tiniest details and what meals they ate and what night it was….this took over 3 hours.
In planning my own wedding I DO NOT want anyone to feel like this! I want everyone to have a great time and enjoy themselves and not worry about anything. I’m trying my very best to make sure everyone has a comfortable, memorable, time at my wedding…not leave feeling like I did.