(Closed) Now that I’m a bride-to-be, I’d never act like this!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry you had a rough time with this one, but honestly, didn’t you realize there would be traveling involved when you agreed to be a BM?  Did you know where the wedding was being held? 

It sounds like the bride has a very dominant personality, which has probably come out with other things (such as the pillow incident).  Seems like there were just clashing expectations for the day.  I highly doubt she was trying to humiliate you.  If you really are feeling this upset still, you may want to discuss the whole thing with her so you don’t end up secretly resenting her.  It’ll eat at you and she won’t have a clue, so nothing will be changed.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have to disagree with PP…I’m sorry, but this bride and her mother sound like ROYAL BITCHES…I don’t care how wonderful you think you are, the world DOES NOT revolve around you, EVEN ON YOUR WEDDING DAY…I understand the thing about the travel, sometimes it comes with the territory…but as for the way they spoke to you, it’s unacceptable and if anyone had spoken to me like that, I honestly would have told them to eff off and taken myself out of the wedding…

I’m sorry you had to go through that with her and if I were you, I wouldn’t ever talk to that woman and her mother again…but that’s just me…I don’t really take crap from anyone LOL

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@abbie017:  Driving to a shower of bachelorette is one thing, but driving three hours to a dress fitting is excessive.  I’m sure OP had better things to do with that time (and money on gas!)

OP I’m sorry that you had to go through this!  Hopefully this was an incident of the wedding bringing out the worst in people, and hopefully she doesn’t treat you like that in the normal course of your friendship.  She sounds pretty awful.  Dominant personality or not, screaming at someone to not put your expensive pillows on the floor is not the way to deal with that situation.  She should have set you up with somewhere comfortable to sleep.  She should have done a lot of things.

It may be too early, but I’m curious…will you be asking this girl to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man for your own wedding?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

OP, I’m so sorry you went through this!  I had a very similar situation.  My best friend asked me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor and she transformed into full on Bridezilla.  She was very demanding, never nice about anything because it was “HER [email protected][email protected]!#” therefore everyone had to serve her.  I felt much like you described.  Whenever I tried to sit her down and talk to her about how she’s been making everyone feel, she’d just shake her head, laugh and say “Oooh mariwithani, you just WAIT until it’s your wedding and then you’ll finally understand.” 

Now that I’m planning a wedding, I’ve taken her comment as a challenge!  I am ready to “kill her with kindness”!  I don’t ever want anyone to feel how she made me feel in preparation for her wedding.  I want this to be a fun time for all of us.  I’m going out of my way to accomodate my BMs because they are sacrificing so much of their time and money to help me with wedding planning and being in my wedding party.  Every bride should keep that in perspective. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsD41503:  Good luck with her as a BM! Definitely kill with kindness, but if she gets snappy don’t be afraid to put her in her place.  Just remind her that she had her turn and now its yours!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It drives me nuts when brides don’t realize that it’s an honor to have her best friends standing by her on her day. So sorry you had to go through that, sounds like SUCH a nightmare! 

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