Post # 1
I wasn’t sure where to post this, so I’ve put it in Beehive. I just wanted to take a minute to gush.
Fiance and I got married in secret and I’ve got to say it’s been a BLAST! We’ve already done the name changing stuff and gotten that out of the way (and I’m amazed at how easy it’s been to keep THAT a secret), same with mixing our finances and opening new accounts, etc.
Then, there’s the aspect of being MARRIED, which is totally awesome in and of itself but the cool thing is now that we’re married, I’m even more excited to plan my wedding because I feel so relaxed about it. The pressure is OFF.
It gets better.
We get THREE weddings. Yes, three. The first in the judges chambers, the second will be the big one with all our family and friends, and the third will be our church ceremony. I feel so blessed. All of our celebrating is being spread out over the year….it’s so cool.
I think the best part is getting to privately acknowledge what we already knew: we’re married. We’ve been married for a while now, it just wasn’t written down. There’s a wonderful kind of validation in that.
For those of you that got married on paper before having your big marriage celebration, what is/was the best part for you?
Post # 3
i’m secretly getting married next week…our real wedding is in october =)
Post # 4
Due to bureaucracy of paperwork, Fiance and I will likely have our civil ceremony here and our actual big wedding in Brazil.
Brazil makes it so hard for the legal paperwork. We need to be both present IN PERSON in court, at least 30 days before our wedding to file an “intent” that gets published, and if no one files a reason why we shouldn’t be married (such as you’re already married) then we can pick up out license and finally get married. Since we don’t have that much vacation time and can’t really hang out in Brazil for a month prior to our wedding (I wish!), we have to get married in court here, get it filed with the Brazilian Consulate here, so we have our proper paperwork when we get to Brazil for our religious ceremony.
Ugh, so complicated! I’m hoping our court wedding won’t take away from the “oomph” of our actual wedding — we’re considering the religious ceremony in front of our family and friends to be our real wedding!
Post # 5
hmm, we will have been married for 5 years before our wedding, lol, so the best part is that i have more time to lose weight and there isn’t a huge rush to get married anymore. That and now we have 2 of our own ring bearers!
Post # 6
Congratulations fab. I can see your excitement. Squell)
Post # 7
😀 we got married last april – but our wedding is in june!!!! we honestly only did it because he HAD to have surgery and I had awesome insurance whereas he had none – otherwise we would have waited until our wedding this june.
BUT since you asked…i guess the best part is that while I’m VERY excited and happy to change my name (which I actually did last monday!!) – I had a full year to get “used” to my new name and “tried it out” here and there…such as at Petco when i take our furbabies in, they’re all under my married name so I get to sign my new name there. :p
Like I said, I just changed my name this past week and I have to talk to my HR rep on tuesday to make sure that it doesn’t get changed JUST yet in the system at work because while my OLD boss is the only one that knows – my new boss does not (i got promoted to a different department last year)…and my new boss IS invited to the wedding and we just really don’t want anyone to know…
so anywhoo. yup! 😀 plus it HAS taken this long for me to really get used to the word “husband” and “wife”…we use it at home all the time (and i use it online here and my other forum, lol) but some days it IS still weird – even a year later. :p
Post # 8
wow. a year and you didn’t slip and say I have to go home to hubby or anything? or my husband this or that? wow. that was not easy.. Well congratulations.
Post # 9
oooh my gosh that’s soo cool! Congrats! Was there a reason you chose to get married ahead of time?
Post # 11
We went down to the county clerk’s office for a secret civil ceremony, and I am in process of changing my name. We also did it so that I can add him to my health insurance.
There’s something neat about sharing the marriage in private. We didn’t tell anyone because we don’t want to lessen the importance of our wedding day (in 5 months).