(Closed) now that the weddings over…

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Looking back, did I need to stress out so much about some of the smaller details? Probably not. Am I still happy I insisted on what I wanted and it shows in the photos? Yes.

I was definitely not expecting a lot of our extended family members and parents’ friends who attended to be so enthusiastic about our wedding, seeing as we barely know most of them. But they were extremely joyful and supportive and made us feel like a million bucks. So that was an unanticipated bonus that felt really nice, and one we would have missed out on had we just thrown up our hands and eloped (as we were so often tempted to do when family drama reared its head).

So actually, in the wake of my own wedding, I think I have even more of an appreciation for the big to-do associated with weddings than I did before.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

@jay0hwhy: i definitely felt like that ON my wedding day. all those months of obsessing over details and on my wedding day, it just didn’t matter so much. i was just happy to be marrying my best friend. it suddenly was not important if i had enough petals on my aisle, or that they made the wrong flavor cake. i was so happy that nothing like that could bring me down! 

although since getting my pics back, i did obsess again over some thing and not getting pics of certain things. but now after a few more weeks, those things are just not that big of a deal either anymore.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Looking back, I should have stressed more about certain details – like my hair! I took the laid back appraoch and refused to stress. I had better hair in my old after-clubbing pictures! Sigh.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

@Vitsippa – I felt the same way about my hair. I did not want to stress, but now I get stressed looking at the pics. LOL

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I get really excited about other people’s weddings- way more than I did pre-engagement.

I really feel like a lot of the details we stressed over were pointless, because when we had to do our 30-day replan most of them got left out and the wedding was still a good wedding.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I look back at the times I argued with my mom over details & think to myself what a cry bag I was over simple stuff. LOL

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yes, I do still think weddings and all the details are a big deal. Not so much that I would have stressed out at much, but enough that I’m glad I did stress out and put as much energy as I did into it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

As much as I wished I didn’t stress so much the week before, I am still so glad I paid attention to the details.  The wedding turned out exactly the way I wanted!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

With such a short engagement (3 months) there was never much time to care about the small details. The only issue was the day of the wedding…

There was a 60% chance of rain. The entire planning process I had planned for the reception to be under a tent and had even picked out the very intricate lighting (bulb lights streamed and filtered into bird cages… so gorgeous!). The morning of the wedding I got a call from the venue owner letting me know that the reception would be in doors because of the forecast but the ceremony could probably still take place out doors as planned. They needed to set the tables and couldn’t take the chance of a down pour. If we had to put sides on the tent it would be around $1500 which we couldn’t afford the day of the wedding.

I was upset. I didn’t cry but was really bummed out because I couldn’t imagine the reception inside. For months I had imagined it under those beautiful bird cages… but I had to push that aside and realize that in less than 12 hours I would be marrying my soul mate and the lighting was not going to add to our actual marriage. I had to keep my focus on the real prize!

In the end, it ended up WAY better than I ever could have hoped for. Inside the guests were so comfortable in the air conditioning. We live in Alabama and even the evening it was 80 degrees with high humidity. We were miserable just doing pictures and I can not imagine having everyone out there for a full meal and everything. SO things worked out better than I had planned and the inside of the restaurant looked AMAZING!!! Its this old country store and it has tons of eclectic vintage curios everywhere! great!

Now im just happy to be married and be my normal self again, and to settle into marriage and be the people we each fell in love with — not the nut case wedding planning people we were for the past few months. I am also so thankful we had a short engagement, I can’t imagine it lasting a single day longer!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m definitely more laid back about weddings now mine is over.  I just dont get as stressed as I was before.  I know that everything will work out for them and we’ll have a good time.  That doesnt exclude me from critiquing them with Darling Husband when we go!  ha!

Post # 14
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Honey bee

Both, I am glad I didnt stress about too much stuff. A few things I wish I had thought about more- but in the end I am happy.

I definately was over-emotional about things I should not have been, but I am glad that I was very careful not to talk to people about it because at the time I KNEW I was being crazy, I just couldnt help myself. And in reality I am still annoyed about somethings, but much happier that no relationships were strained.

Mostly, I wish I had been able to do more projects and some things differently, but being across country I couldn’t.  Now that I have done it I might have actually considered doing a wedding where we live. But then again so many people wouldnt have been able to come. So, who knows?

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yep, still think weddings are a big deal & I would still stress over all the little details like I did before my wedding.

I am VERY particular about decor & I have a very specific taste; so even if I could turn back time and re-do my wedding; I would actually be even more meticulous and plan everything much better. So I would prob be even more stressed, haha!

But, I will say, despite my being particular and the fact that several things were not set the right way, and we forgot a few little details; on the actual day of the wedding, these were the last things on my mind & I didn’t care at all if something wasn’t right 🙂

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I feel like I am going to feel like this when the wedding is over. dont get me wrong I think planning is a lot of fun, but there is just so much time and details that I know Im not going to give a crap about 4 months from now when the wedding is over. But I think everyone does it because we want our days to be special and perfect!!

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