Post # 1
For the nearly a decade that NotFroofy has been in this country, the federal government has declined to recognize the possibility that she and I might get married. We’ve been disadvantaged by this on everything from immigration rights to in-state tuition.
My son is just finishing up getting his security clearance, and he tells me today that he needs a copy of NotFroofy’s green card faxed to the relevant authorities. I ask him why he needs this, since it was not requested the last time he got a security clearance. He responds, “Oh, but you weren’t married then.”
So let me get this straight: Any time being married could possibly benefit us, the federal government will not recognize our marriage. However, when our being married creates extra nuisance requirements, it is recognized?
Post # 3
Isn’t that the beauty (hah) of bureaucracy? Sorry they’re such jackasses!
Post # 4
Two words: epic fail. Sorry you two have to go through this! Ain’t that America.
Post # 5
Not at all surprising… super shitty 🙁
Post # 6
I think the government truly enjoys making extra paperwork for itself whenever it has an opportunity to do so.
Post # 7
So does this mean Don’t Ask Don’t Tell doesn’t apply to family members?
Post # 8
Ditto all the above posters.
Post # 9
@MightySapphire: “Don’t ask, don’t tell” applies only to the military, and only to its actual employees (not their families). It does not apply to other agencies that require security clearances (like the one my son is joining).
Post # 10
Yeah, sorry that was meant to be a little sarcastic. I’m exasperated for you. It seems like a double standard, and it’s craptastic.
Post # 11
Ugh, this garbage makes my blood boil. Let’s take it to the White House!!
Post # 13
Ditto the double standard. I’m w/you 2d!
Post # 16
yes, it sucks but its for a good reason – you cant get a clearance if you are directly related to a foreign national – kinda defeats the purpose of a clearance.
dont worry its a PITA for everyone else too, so hey yay for equal opportunity!