Post # 31
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
missinthecity : Thank you for sharing your story! You’re right, you can’t always anticipate what you will want years beforehand. Also, “soon” can mean different things to do different people, haha.
I think I should clarify that perhaps “lull” was the wrong choice of words. My boyfriend and I are very happy together. Perhaps I should have described it as “the awkward or uncertain time between honeymoon stage of dating and engagement” that is not defined. That’s all I really meant – undefined.
I definitely go out of my way to be my own person. I really enjoy ice skating, taking online courses to advance my knowledge of my industry, working on independent research, traveling to see friends, exploring new cities, going to movies alone, biking to different neighborhoods and restaurants, my work (which is very community oriented), talking on the phone with or visiting family, and attending random events aroun town either by myself or with friends/coworkers. I agree – there is more to life than being in a relationship 🙂
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
peoniesandpitbulls : You’re totally right. Thank you for your honesty (and for sharing what the wedding planning process is really like!). This is precisely why I am trying to ask him about this stuff now, but I think he, like you said, would like some more time together to really answer that question.
Post # 34
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Newbee
If you can’t keep your relationship interesting in between exciting life events, then you’re gonna have a looooonggggg and boring marriage.
Post # 35
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Busy bee
You just enjoy being together and being happy…same thing you will do after the ring is on your finger. My SO and I have been planning to get engaged since day 1, it probably won’t happen for another six months or so, but I don’t feel like I need to ‘keep it interesting’, every day is already filled with so much happiness just being with him! If you feel like you don’t know how to fill this ‘undefined period’ and keep your life together fun and interesting until you are engaged/wedding planning/honeymooning, how are you going to feel in the relationship when the honeymoon ends and the wedding excitement has passed? Just live life like you’re already married, that’s how I feel and so that’s what I do, haha.
Post # 36
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
nordiclight : Well, it’s hard do that that when you’re in a long distance relationship and you live 650 miles away haha (and living together before marriage is off the table due to religious/cultural reasons). But I get what you’re trying to say, thanks for responding! 🙂