- 6 years ago
So, for the duration of our relationship, Fiance and I have not been actively trying to ‘stop’ pregnancy from happening, but we’ve also not been doing anything special to get pregnant, if that makes sense.
Judgement aside, I have a few questions.
One. I have not used BC of any kind in 1 1/2 years. Fiance and I have not used any form of BC, such as pullout method, condom, etc. (Sorry if it’s Too Much Information.)
I know the chances of getting pregnant each time are kind of iffy, I think it’s 1 /4? I’m not completely sure. Anyway. My OB/GYN (the one I’ve talked about in another thread) told me I had some kind of issue with ovulation/fertility, wouldn’t specify, etc; I’m changing doctors, btw, and have an appt with a new GYNO soon, so maybe that’ll clear that part up!
But…it’s been a year now, with zero protection at all, and nothing. Now, I’m not saying I WANT to get pregnant right now, but I’m also not against it. Stable jobs, I’m in college, Fiance has a house, financially secure….okay, so. I guess I don’t have any right to be a little upset that nothing’s happened yet, since we aren’t married yet. But I’m mostly upset because I know that the fact that we’ve been doing this for a year and nothing at all has happened…will make it harder once we DO get married…and then aren’t getting pregnant then, either.
(EDIT for a little more info: I was sexually abused at a very young age 3-7 years old, and I’ve heard that sometimes that can cause trauma to internal organs, but I’m not sure if that has anything to do with this or if that’s even really true.)
My periods happen once every month, sometimes twice a month. They last 9-13 days every time, and have caused many issues with any kind of physical activity. I take medicine for the pain that my doctor prescribed, but I have kind of went lax on that in the past 4-5 months.
Does anyone know if there could be an underlying issue that I’m not seeing? I have cysts on my ovaries (I know sometimes they’re harmless, but I’ve had to have them removed and they’re constant and grow back each time).
Sorry for all the info! Please don’t judge me, that’s not what I’m asking. I just need to know if I need to discuss this with new OB/GYN seeing as I’m not married, but have been NTNT for a year now with no results. Thanks for advice! 🙂