(Closed) Number of Bridesmaids???

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I am having 150 guests, with 4 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen.  I was part of a wedding several years ago that had 12 bridesmaids and 12 groomsmen and everything turned into a bit of a circus.  I know that they loved all of their friends dearly, but as a part of the mayhem I wish they had limited the numbers or been more organized. 

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

6 bridesmaids, 6 groomsmen. wedding party is 14 with us, and we have 115 yes’s. We just realized our rehearsal dinner invite list is 1/3 of the guest list. Oh well! =]

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we plan to have roughly 150 guests…….3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen (including Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man) 

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We’re  having 5 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 5 Groomsmen with only about 150 guests. I feel like that’s a bit large for the size of wedding we’re having, but I don’t care! We love our bridal party and it’s our wedding! 🙂

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We invited 280 and are having 7 BMs and 7 Groomsmen.  It was originally going to be only 4 of each, then we decided to factor in his sister/my brother…and it kind of snowballed from there!  I do feel happy to have them all though, and this way there are no regrets.

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

What’s the rule about having one bridesmaid/groomsman for every 50 guests? Do people follow that? I am also having trouble picking bridesmaids and don’t want to be inappropriate. What baout 250 guests and 7 bridesmaids… does anyone think that’s excessive?

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I never followed any rules!  I asked who I wanted, and that was that. I don’t understand that rule!  Why force yourself to ask people you wouldn’t have otherwise asked because you have a lot of guests? Just my opinion 🙂

Post # 24
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Worker bee

We are having 5 BMs and 5 GMs. I almost felt like that was too many, but at the same time, it will help with costs for the bridal shower, etc. for there to be more gals. Maybe that’s the wrong way to think about it, but I wouldn’t want anyone to feel too burdened by the cost of being a bridesmaid. I also just couldn’t decide between these ladies.  They’ve all been there for me during different times in my life. And, the photography-aware side of me loves how pictures look with 4-5 BMs and GMs.

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

This was an issue at first but I finally decided on 3 BMs and my Maid/Matron of Honor and our flower girl… I picked them for obvious reasons… my best friend, my roommate, my cousin, and my aunt… but I do have 3 girlfriends I’ve made in my adult life who I wanted to include. But I felt 8 on each side was just too much… plus The Cowboy just doesn’t have 8 guys friends to include…lol

My girlfriends told me not to worry about it since I haven’t known them as long and they understand but I really wanted them to be honored… so I made them my B-list Beyotches. It’s a little joke among us and they will have their own cordinating color to dress in and corsages and get their makeup and hair and everything done with us. They just won’t walk down the aisle… We all agreed it was a nice compromise and I’m so happy they are cool with it.

The Cowboy picked my flower girl b/c I really am not close to any children but he is… and we won’t have a ring bearer b/c like I said I’m not close to any children… altho I do love them :-/

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

When I first got engaged it was ZERO. Yep… I thought it would be sooo romantic to just have the 2 of us go at it alone. But now, as the wedding planning begins, I’ve realized I can’t do that to my best friends & I realized I’ll definitely need their help! Now it’s 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man, 1 Flower Girl, 1 RB, and 2 Groomsmen. We’re having a small wedding with *hopefully* no more than 75 guests.

Still, with only 2 BMs I’ve upset a lot of GFs… many just assumed they would be my Bridesmaid or Best Man followed by me breaking their hearts. So it’s a lose-lose situation. It would have been easier to say "no bridesmaids" but then my very BFF’s would have been really hurt. Ugh!

In the end though, Nick & I eventually get what we want… we’re having our religious ceremony in Canada w/ the big dress and the BMs & we’ll have our legal ceremony (just us!) in the US.  

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am having my sis as my Maid/Matron of Honor and Fiance sister as a bridesmaid.  Fiance is having his BFF as his Bridesmaid or Best Man, younger brother Groomsmen, and his younger brother that passed away a year ago will also be up there with us in spirit. We will have a pedestal with a candle where his spirit will be!

3 flowergirls and 1 ringbearer.

Post # 28
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Newbee

hmmm we’re still hashing this one out…we’ve got plenty of time to decide as we’re planning for over a year away… anyways as of right now its bm, moh 4 bm and gm a junior bm and gm…he’d like to cut it back one gm but i’m not willing to yet. we’ve been to a wedding where the numbers were different on each side and didn’t like it so we’re trying to stay equal without having too many people.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, 4 Bridesmaids, 1 Jr. Bridesmaid, 2 flower girls, 1 ringbears, 1 best man, 3 groomsmen (so far). My wedding party has grown significantly bigger than I had originally planned. I originally only had 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, 2 bridesmaids and the Jr. . However, we’ve been planning a while and relationships change. We added a close couple friend of ours. One of my brothers is going in to the air force and may not be here, so there is the lack of groomsmen.

Basically, we each picked out own, but he knew he had to include my brothers and son! His nieces are the flowergirls, so it may not be completely even, but it all worked out.

I will be honest, if I could go back, I would stick to 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and maybe 2 BM’s and that is it! I really want the other girls present as well but I could have found something else for them to do. Now, since we have such a large party, I can’t do as much for them as I wanted to.

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We have a huge wedding party and everything is running fine. I have 10 girls and he has 10 guys!

Post # 31
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m having 1 Maid of Honor, 1 Matron of Honor, 5 bridesmaids, 1 Best Man, 6 groomsmen, 1 Junior Bridesmaid, 2 flower girls and a Ring Bearer.  It seems large, but there wasn’t anyone I could do without!!

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