Post # 32
We had 230 guests and our bridal party included 4 bridesmaids, 4 groomsmen. I think you can pretty much do whatever you feel comfortable with and makes you happy. But like some have said, if you are having a small wedding, it might looks odd if you have a HUGE wedding party. Good luck!
Post # 33
I’m having 2 bridesmaids and 1 maid of honor, my sister. He’s having 2 grooms men and best man, his brother. I worry about something might happen to him like that movie that just came out The Hangover where the guys just loose him after the bachelor’s party.
Post # 34
We are having 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 matron of honor, 2 jr bridesmaid(my daughters), 3 bridesmaids, 1 Flower Girl, 1 RB, 1 Bestman, and 4 groomsmen. We both had family members we wanted to stand by our sides on that day
Post # 35
Thanks everyone for the responses! Looks like I have some deciding to do!!
Post # 36
I think there are pluses and minuses to both. I had a small wedding party (one Maid/Matron of Honor plus 2 bridesmaids). I liked that because it wasn’t too hectic on the day of, I was able to save money on flowers and hair and make up, and I got to buy them nice gifts because there were only three. We also got to do fun stuff like go to the spa together (my mom’s treat), it was easier to coordinate with them, and we all knew each other from college and were friends.
I was also in a wedding where there were six bridesmaids plus 1 Maid/Matron of Honor. The good parts of this were that it was a lot of fun to be 8 of us together, the bride had a lot of support around her (which was a big plus), and she was able to include her old friends, her college friends, and her new sisters-in-law. The downfall was, it’s a lot of people to coordinate, and there were some inter-bridal party issues (the bride didn’t know about them), mostly because the Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t really know any of the rest of us.
Post # 37
I have 5 BM’s and one Maid/Matron of Honor. I feel like it’s perfect because we all know each other (except for one Bridesmaid or Best Man, a childhood friend of mine from Cali) so it’s not like there is any clashing of personalities. Our group melds together nicely.
Post # 38
I personally am having 5BMs including a Maid/Matron of Honor, and he has the same on his side.
But he was recently in a wedding where he was one of 12!! groomsmen, and we were just at a wedding this weekend where there were 8 ppl on each side (There were about 250 guests at each event). A wedding consultant told me that the acceptable number is going up and the average number is around 6 bridesmaids, so I’m glad to hear that so many of you ladies are keeping it "relatively" small.
Post # 39
As of right now we’re just having a maid of honour and a best man (my best friend, and one of his close friends, respectively). If we change our minds and want to add more people, we’ll probably just have one bridesmaid and one groomsman (my sister, his brother).
Post # 40
I just researched this because I saw a wedding party with 12 bridesmaids and thought it was RIDICULOUS, how can you be THAT close with 12 different people? You’d do nothing but spend time with other people!
To answer the question, we each have 5 on our sides and a ring bearer and flower girl for a 100 person wedding.
Post # 41
I have 3. I could have made it bigger, but once we thought about what it would be like trying to get dresses, extra costs for flowers, etc., we settled on 3. One is my sister.
Post # 42
I am having 3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, 2 flower girls and possibly one usher for a 120 guest wedding.
I think it depends on your wedding size if your having a 200 + guest, I believe it’s fine to have a wedding party of 6-7 Bridesmaid or Best Man and groomsmen each. IMO anymore than 8 each is going a little too far, I would have a lot of trouble paying for that many and organizing it all. My Maid/Matron of Honor had 7 in her party for a 180 guest wedding and it was a little crazy even then and she regretted it, saying she wished she had cut down to the people that really really mattered. She was unable to buy them all that she wanted too, and her BM’s were pretty needy, every one of them had special requests which put her in a tough situation. But she did not have a wedding coordinator, so that may have made a huge difference.
Wish you luck in whatever you choose!