Post # 1
I keep hearing that registering for twice as many gifts as people you’re inviting is standard. Here’s the issue: we are inviting about 300 people to the wedding. Who wants to register for 600 items? So far, we’ve registered for about 250 items between 3 registries and we’re close to the limit of things we need (and lots of the things are upgrades).
How many more items should we realistically add?
At what point does a large registry look greedy?
Post # 3
I would say just register for stuff you need/want.
Also, think about it this way: You are inviting 300 people, but a lot of that is probably couples and/or families, so you will likely get one gift in those cases, so don’t worry about not having enough on your registry.
Post # 4
As the PP said, it’s usually one gift per couple so you definitely don’t need to register for 600 things. But people like having options when they shop so you also don’t want your list to be too small. I think what you have already sounds just fine, considering some people may buy a shower gift and then give money at the wedding.
Post # 5
I’m glad you asked this. I was wondering how much to register for too. Between my FH and I we have so much stuff already.
I would also consider that people may do “group” gifts. A lot of the time my mom, SIL, and myself will chip in on a big gift. Like a $300 pot and pan set. That’s 3 couples on one gift. My extended family does that a lot too. That’s for a shower gift though. We typically give cash at the wedding.
Post # 6
I agree – not each guest will buy a gift, some choose to do just cash, and if you have a shower, you won’t have 250 people (though cheers if you do!)
We have 179 invitees and have only registered (at this point) for around 100 gifts. There are some things we may add after the shower, but we’ve both lived on our own and together, and I was married before, so we just don’t need that much stuff.
I still feel guilty sometimes about what we have registered for, but try to remember that people will want to give us some gifts. We have a few big ticket items for families/groups to go in on, too.
Post # 7
My advice would actually be the opposite of what you’ve heard: go with half as many gifts as guests. The guest list isn’t based on one person, one person, one person…it’s based on groups of people who will likely be buying gifts in pairs/families/whatever.
And really, only register for the stuff you honest to goodness could use. There were some things that I thought would be “nice” to have until we had a wall of gifts in the living room and nowhere to put them! Then reality struck and I realized we still had no dining room for the punch bowl and 24 crystal glasses…doi! They’re great, but slightly premature.
Post # 8
register for what you need. if everything gets bought up, register for a few more things (can usually do this online) so last minute shoppers still have some options
Post # 9
I would leave it as is-with the things you most want. If you need to add more things after the shower or closer to the wedding do it then. This makes it more likely that you will get the things you really need. The number of items means each individual item-if you want 10 wine glasses that is 10, 10 5-piece place setting is 50, and so on.
The possibility of cash gifts is completely regional-I ive in the South invited 250 people and received cash from 2 couples, both from out of town. But I received all of my registry gifts except for a few odds and ends.
Post # 10
I noticed that my Target registry said I needed to add more items, basically the 3x rule. But I just thought it was because they wanted other people to buy me more…. get what I’m saying? I honestly think you should just register for what you want and let that be that. You don’t want to register for random items that you don’t need/want because if only 100 gifts are bought out of the 300… you’re likely to get the gifts you didn’t want in the first place. But that’s my opinion. 🙂
Post # 11
The “twice as many” rule comes from the retailers, not reality. Trust me; I work for one of the big ones. It’s all about numbers for them. 250 gifts on your registry is more than plenty. Most families will only get you one gift. Who’s ever heard of the husband, wife, and 2 kids each getting a separate gift for the bridal couple? A lot of guests will give cash or gift cards. Just make sure you log into your registry frequently, especially in the days before your shower and wedding, and make sure there still gifts available to purchase on there. Otherwise, they will get you whatever they want you to have. You may have to add more gifts as it gets closer, but more than likely you should be set.
Post # 12
I just at a registry as a guide for guests…if you shop at this store, things are the things we like. After you have a shower I would look at your registries again and see if any additional items need to be added.