NUMBERING RSVP'S DEBATE

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did you number your RSVP cards?
    YES : (55 votes)
    63 %
    NO : (33 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 2
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    19 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    On recommendation, I got an invisible ink pen and a small black light and wrote the guest name or nickname on the back of the rsvp card. Cost a few bucks from amazon. So if I get one back without a name, whip out the black light and there it is!

    Post # 3
    Member
    930 posts
    Busy bee

    We numbered ours and were happy we did. We had several guests send theirs in without a name.

    Post # 4
    Member
    44 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    It’s not a law or anything, so not mandatory.  If we hadn’t done it, though, we would have had several guest RSVPs without a name.  Your call as to whether that is necessary for your planning, or just the number.  I needed names for place cards.

    Post # 5
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    47209 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Very few things in life are mandatory. You decide how much hassle you want to deal with when you receive rsvp’s with no name written in.

    There are other alternatives: write the guests’ names on the cards yourself, or write their name and address as the return address on the rsvp envelope.

    Post # 6
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    1066 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I didn’t. It’s very obvious on our RSVP’s that you need to write your name. There is one or two lines at the bottom that state Name(s) of Attendee(s):________________ (depending on whether or not they got a plus one. Solo invites said Name of attendee:_______)

    We mailed ours out last week and so far we got ten back all filled out correctly. 

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    It is something you can do to make your life a little easier, in case someone forgets to put their name on the RSVP card. I used a pencil to write a tiny number on the corner of each corresponding with my spreadsheet. I was thankful because a couple of folks didn’t fill the cards out correctly. 

    Post # 8
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    3518 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    BEYONDBEAUTY1221 :  well I don’t know exactly what constitutes mandatory in your book – but rsvp cards aren’t even mandatory, so…. 

    Post # 9
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    9527 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    To make your life easier should but you don’t have to. If you are worried about “ranking” invites just write in invisible ink 

    Post # 10
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    1004 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    BEYONDBEAUTY1221 :  HIGHLY recommended! I got so many RSVPS back with no name, return address or anything. It was so frustrating and caused a lot of unnecessary stress.

    Post # 11
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    1004 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    mrsbrizz2017 :  lol I did this too and thought it was dummy proof. Nope. On the multiple places where it asked for your name, a lot of people put a check mark. I couldn’t believe the lack of common sense. 

    Post # 12
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    9785 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Just recommended not required.

    We didn’t have any guests forget to put thier name on the RSVP.

    Post # 14
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    2589 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    Mls1988 :  my second RSVP came back with no return address and no name. So frustrating. 

    Post # 15
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    551 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Wish I had marked them in some way, got some back only detailing a list of food- not even saying who it was for…

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