Post # 1

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Newbee
While planning my wedding I’ve read very few articles that discuss numbering RSVP’s before sending them out to guests. It states this helps when a guest forgets to write their name on the RSVP card. My question is, IS IT NECESSARY/ MANDATORY to number the RSVP cards or is it more RECOMMENDED?
Post # 2

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Newbee
On recommendation, I got an invisible ink pen and a small black light and wrote the guest name or nickname on the back of the rsvp card. Cost a few bucks from amazon. So if I get one back without a name, whip out the black light and there it is!
Post # 3

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Busy bee
We numbered ours and were happy we did. We had several guests send theirs in without a name.
Post # 4

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Newbee
It’s not a law or anything, so not mandatory. If we hadn’t done it, though, we would have had several guest RSVPs without a name. Your call as to whether that is necessary for your planning, or just the number. I needed names for place cards.
Post # 5

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Honey Beekeeper
Very few things in life are mandatory. You decide how much hassle you want to deal with when you receive rsvp’s with no name written in.
There are other alternatives: write the guests’ names on the cards yourself, or write their name and address as the return address on the rsvp envelope.
Post # 6

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Bumble bee
I didn’t. It’s very obvious on our RSVP’s that you need to write your name. There is one or two lines at the bottom that state Name(s) of Attendee(s):________________ (depending on whether or not they got a plus one. Solo invites said Name of attendee:_______)
We mailed ours out last week and so far we got ten back all filled out correctly.
Post # 7

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Bumble bee
It is something you can do to make your life a little easier, in case someone forgets to put their name on the RSVP card. I used a pencil to write a tiny number on the corner of each corresponding with my spreadsheet. I was thankful because a couple of folks didn’t fill the cards out correctly.
Post # 8

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Sugar bee
BEYONDBEAUTY1221 : well I don’t know exactly what constitutes mandatory in your book – but rsvp cards aren’t even mandatory, so….
Post # 9

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Buzzing Beekeeper
To make your life easier should but you don’t have to. If you are worried about “ranking” invites just write in invisible ink
Post # 10

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Bumble bee
BEYONDBEAUTY1221 : HIGHLY recommended! I got so many RSVPS back with no name, return address or anything. It was so frustrating and caused a lot of unnecessary stress.
Post # 11

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Bumble bee
mrsbrizz2017 : lol I did this too and thought it was dummy proof. Nope. On the multiple places where it asked for your name, a lot of people put a check mark. I couldn’t believe the lack of common sense.
Post # 12

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Buzzing Beekeeper
Just recommended not required.
We didn’t have any guests forget to put thier name on the RSVP.
Post # 13

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Buzzing Beekeeper
BEYONDBEAUTY1221 : How would it be mandatory? Who’s policing this?
Post # 14

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Sugar bee
Mls1988 : my second RSVP came back with no return address and no name. So frustrating.
Post # 15

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Busy bee
Wish I had marked them in some way, got some back only detailing a list of food- not even saying who it was for…