Post # 1
We are having a small ceremony by the river. Very casual and quick. Want to invite the 19 people to get cake and a drink. It will be in the evening and we’re not planning to have dinner or anything. If they want anything other than what we offer they will need to buy it. How do we tastefully do this?
This is all very close family. An invitation wouldnt even be required with this crowd. No one is driving far to come to this event.
How do let people know that this is just a way to include them and not a huge party??
Post # 3
You would phrase your invitation with the wording “cake and punch reception to follow” – you could have a separate reception card, or put it right on the notes or emails that you send to folks to let them know the time and place of the ceremony.
Cake and punch implies just what it says – you’ll hang out for a while, you’ll serve cake and soft drinks.
You can let people know that afterwards you and your husband will be eating dinner at XX restaurant, and if they would care to join you, they are welcome to do so If they tell you ahead of time you can make a reservation for the right number of people. (but that’s optional – if you don’t want to eat with everyone Don’t mention where you’ll have dinner!)
Post # 4
Since you aren’t using invitations just spread the word to those coming.
Post # 5
I would use the “cake and punch” reception line as suggested by UmbrellaMoon.
Post # 6
Thanks for the replies. I like the idea of letting them know where we might eat after. We’re just ready to be married. We can’t take a honeymoon for a couple of years. My schedule is so packed. It started to feel like we were never going to get married since we have crazy schedules. Now we’re doing a mini-moon from October 4th-6th then getting married on the 7th. Weird I know. That’s the only way we can fit it and get married on my favorite number haha