(Closed) nvr thought this would happen to me (long)

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow, that is tough.

I would think that if they hold you as a very dear friend, that no matter what happened between BM#1 and BM#2 that they would suck it up for your wedding and festivities.

I think that you are doing the right thing by staying out of it.

Good Luck!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Oh no.  I would try to stay out of it as much as possible.  Hopefully things will work out and they can remain friends.  If they cannot remain friends, I hope that the two of them will not hold their differences with one another against you and try to peacefully co-exhist at your wedding. Unfortunately this is kinda of a “wait and see” situation for you.  My thoughts are with you!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

don’t get into it.  hope that they will resolve things before then!!  there’s still a couple months. 

Post # 6
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8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would also try to stay out of it as much as possible. When and if BM#2 asks why you didn’t say something, just tell her that you were told in confidence and that you want to be friends with both of them, and you felt that if you broke the trust with BM#1, you would have reason to beleive that BM#2 wouldn’t be able to trust you in the future because you broke the trust of BM#1.

I really hope that made sense 🙂

Post # 7
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

PinkSparkleGrl is right….they should suck it up.  I have having a formally married couple in my wedding party.  Yep, one bridesmaid used to be married to one groomsmen.  Awkward, yes…but also manageable, only if everyone can suck it up for your sake.  However, two girls may be a worse situation with the caddiness & drama.  I wish you the best!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Glad to hear you’ve decided to stay out of it.  The last thing you need are friendship problems right now, especially with your bridesmaids!  That’s WAY too much stress, believe me — I’ve been there.

Your objective for your wedding is to have a beautiful wedding and for your bridesmaids to be bridesmaids.  That might not happen if you get in the middle…glad to hear you decided not to.

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