(Closed) NWR-20 somethings, are you going through a “quarterlife crisis”??

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I went through a quarter life crisis when I turned 21. Kind of early, right? Anyway that year or so was a mess. I was unhappy with everything in my life and I questioned everything. It was tough but somehow Fiance managed to be patient with me and we made it though! Good luck though, I know it sucks.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i’m having mine right now. i’ll pause mid-email at work, and think, “i haven’t accomplished anything yet, and i’m already 25!” and have a mini-panic moment. then i’ll sip my tea and trudge along. 

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I did last year when I was 25.. I just felt like I hadn’t accomplished enough.  I wasn’t where I thought I would be when I was turned 25.  Seems so early to go through a crisis situation, but it happens!  I didn’t read any books or anything, I just had to really think about my life and see that my life isn’t that bad, and I have accomplished a lot.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

That happened to me too when I hit 25!  I didn’t want to celebrate my birthday…was pissed cause I had a college degree and worked at a crappy job…

I got over it because well, th Fiance will always be older than me :o)  and he just hit 30 last year….

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m going through this right now. I just keep thinking, I have accomplished so very little. It frustrates me that I have a graduate degree and the student loan debt to prove it…for what?! Urgh.

My Fiance and I had a disagreement about moving today. I want to move out of our crappy neighborhood into a nicer one.  He is emphatic that we can’t move because we can’t afford to because of the wedding. I just got so angry about it. Why do I work so hard to live like this? 

I just want to feel like my life is together. I’m so tired of the riff raff. 

Sorry for the quarter life crisis vent.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think some of the things online apply to me, and I’m just 20! 😛

But then again, not everyone expects to live to 100 so 20 could very well be a quarter of a life, or more.

Post # 10
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640 posts
Busy bee

I feel the same way! I hope that its due to this transition year (living in CA for just a year as Fiance takes grad school pre-reqs) and once we get settled in MI things will feel calmer. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I went through this went I turned 25. I had a teaching job, lived in my own apartment, just felt like with teaching “Did I REALLY just sign my life away for this foolishness?”

I got over the quaterlife crisis and I still question teaching, but at least I don’t have student loans to piss me off about teaching also. (I paid those off, no, NOT with teaching.>.<)

Good luck, it will be over soon, trust me.LOL

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

MsMamaBear it’s good to hear your story. I think part of my “crisis” is a result of my profession: teaching. I look around at my friends who are getting medical degrees, graduating from law school, or just pursuing their passions and I am…a teacher.  Whoopty whoop! On a teacher’s salary and living in NYC, I feel like I will never pay off the debt I owe.

I think if I just found something I was passionate about, maybe I wouldn’t feel so…well…yucky.  I know it could be worse; there are so many twenty five year olds who would love to be in my position. I just need to stop comparing myself to other people.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Um…I’m just shy of 22 and having a life crisis. The grad program I applied to does not have rolling admission so I will not find out for atleast 2 more weeks (it was a later app date) probably longer if I’m even accepted. I’m stressing out about the possibility of not getting in and having to find a job after I spent 4 years flying by in academia, but honing no real workplace skills…I need to continue edu. But the prospect of not having a “real” job for 3 more years atleast is also freaky! ahhh…

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I had one.  it was half way through my masters and i wanted to drop out.  i felt that i had so far to go still to acomplish all the schooling i wanted and i felt that i didnt get to actually start my life until i was done.  

it ended when i realized that i didnt need to be finished with school to start my life with my Fiance and we moved forward with normal life, bought a house, got a dog…all that jazz.

i did buy a new car in the process though 🙂

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

bkchi-  Maybe you should look into a program that pays off student loans by where a teacher is located. I know one pays off at least $17K, but I think it’s your subject area. I think it comes through the government for sure.

Maybe you should look into things you are passionate about also. I understand you don’t want to add more student loans, but at least a hobby or something.

 I actually like helping kids learn, but it’s the MAKING them learn because they don’t want to, their parents not helping them and making my job worse and just the general stress that drains me. I’ve thought about opening a tutoring business, so I still get to teach and use my degrees, but it’s not as high stress.

I hope things work out!!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have a mini-one every once in a while, but so far I’ve been able to avoid a major one, mostly because I’m waiting to see where we end up- we’re a little bit transient right now. I’d recommend reading 20-something or something like that. You can get it at Barnes and Noble. I glanced through it and it seems really good.

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