Post # 1
So the hubs and I decided to give ourselves each a monthly allowance to be spent as desired on things like eating out, clothes, entertainment ect.. And until now it had been going great, but now he is a groomsman in an upcoming wedding so obviously he had to rent a tux for around $100 which we both agree this shouldn’t come out of his allowance because it wasn’t exactly optional. However, we are wondering if I should also get a $100 pass for a new dress to wear to the wedding. I didn’t exactly HAVE TO buy something new to wear but none_the_less I wanted something new. Should this come out of my monthly allowance or should this purchase be exempt up to the cost of the tux rental? We aren’t sure what the best way to handle this is.
Post # 3
@butterfli_beauty: Dh and I have an “allowance” as well. However we also have a clothing budget. I only have to use my allowance to pay for clothes if I’m over my clothing budget and still want something.
Post # 4
Usually I make excuses for shopping but this seems pretty simple. He has to rent a suit but you don’t have to buy a dress, therefore only his should be exempt. Also, in the long run you’re only hurting yourselves as a couple by going off the budget.
Post # 5
However, I can certainly find a nice dress for less than $100, mabye even $20!
Post # 6
His tux is a necessary item, therefore it should be exempt, but you don’t NEED a new dress, therefore it should not be exempt.
Post # 7
i would say you would be exempt if you were a bridesmaid, just as he probably wouldnt spend $100 to rent a tux if he were not a groomsman. He needs to rent a tux, you can wear anything you already have.
Post # 8
I don’t see the big deal if you want to buy yourself a new dress. If you need the money for other more important things then don’t buy a new dress. Maybe spend like 50 or half of what the tux will be.
Post # 9
This is what I wrote on your other post, not sure if you saw it:
I think that BOTH should have come out of your monthly allowances. Technically, he didn’t HAVE to be in the wedding and rent a tux. If the whole point of this allowance thing is so that you guys save as much as possible by limiting the amount you spend on things that aren’t “necessities,” then neither of these purchases are necessities. Thus, if the tux was exempt from the allowance, so should a new dress be.
But just ask yourself – what’s more important? Buying a new dress, even if it comes out of savings, or wearing something that you already have and keeping that saves in there for another purchase in the future? I’m assuming you’re saving up for something – a house? kids? etc. If you don’t “need” the dress and just want it, either find a dress on sale or just wear something you already have.