- 10 years ago
- Wedding: July 2008
I’m going to keep this as short and accurate as possible since I’m in emotional mode.
My husband and I have been saving for a new tv for 8 months. When we were about to buy one when my grandpa died. We spent our tv savings on airfare home to attend the funeral.
In December my sister emailed me stating she and her fiance wanted to buy my parents a new TV and asked if I would put in 200 dollars. We talked about it a little bit and I went and did some math (my husband and I were flying home for the holiday’s and things were tight with gifts). Turns out we really only had $150 to comfortably spend on their gift. I emailed her back asking if we could do something else because I didn’t have the money (my tuition was due) She agreed, and I let it go.
A few days later she emailed me back saying “Fiance and I decided if you put in $150 that will fine. We’ll get the rest, mail me a check.” I said okay and mailed her a check.
Christmas happened, we flew home, everyone was happy.
Last week we spotted the TV we’ve had our eye on discounted. My husband opened a store card with 0 percent interest for a year and we bought it. Stupid? Yes. My husband spent 80 percent of the last year deployed and never splurges on anything- I felt he deserves it and we can pay it off fairly quickly.
My sister called me last night in a bad mood and says, “Wow.. it’s nice you can buy a tv byt not give me the full 200 dollars..” I explained it was financed and changed the subject because I knew her fiance was there and did not want to argue with him listening. I don’t really know him. She ended up telling me how hard her life is, wedding planning, etc.. and hung up on me.
I emailed her a few hours later explaining what happened and asking her not to call me when she was in a bad mood (my sister is borderline bipolar).
She emailed me back “F*** you”
I sent her something funny saying I’ll take that as an apology.
She emailed me back saying her fiance helped her see I manipulated and used her.
Did I manipulate her?
I’m hurt her fiance would say that and she agrees. I felt I was honest about the gift situation. My sister is younger and makes quite a bit of money, I went back to school so we are living on one income. She knows our situation.