(Closed) NWR- Attempt to be sisterly to my FSIL misguided?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Homecoming mum gesture, what do you think?
    It wasn't a thing at my high school: non-texas school : (54 votes)
    34 %
    It was, and I hated it : (2 votes)
    1 %
    It was and I loved it : (1 votes)
    1 %
    You are trying too hard to be sisterly, too soon : (7 votes)
    4 %
    Make her a mum : (0 votes)
    Don't make her a mum : (33 votes)
    20 %
    Do something else for her- (suggest in the comments) : (16 votes)
    10 %
    Don't do anything for her for homecoming : (11 votes)
    7 %
    It was a sweet thought : (37 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    9918 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I have no idea what that is…

    Post # 5
    496 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Er…what is a “mum” in this context? Where I’m from it means “mother”, but I’m assuming that’s not it!

    Edit: OK, just saw your post. I think it would be a nice gesture to make one (especially if you explain your family tradition), but I think you should keep in mind that she might choose not to use/wear it.

    Post # 6
    9918 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @nerdybee:  I still don’t get it.  Why would you want her to wear something like that?  Let me Google it.  OHHHH it’s totally a Texas thing.  Here is an article I found: http://jezebel.com/5965232/inside-the-weird-texas-tradition-of-enormous-homecoming-corsages/


    Yeah…if you live in Seattle, I would NOT do that.  The article I read says mums are “Artificial, shiny and virtually unknown outside of Texas.”



    Post # 9
    4049 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I had never heard of this before your post. I’m pretty sure it is just a Texas thing. It seems strange to me, and I certainly wouldn’t wear it since I’d be the only one!

    Very nice gesture, but I wouldn’t go through with it simply because it’s a foreign thing. But please do something sweet for her – I don’t think you’re in the wrong for anything!

    Post # 10
    9918 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @nerdybee:  Yeah, I think if she lived in Texas and it were a thing at her high school it would make sense…but at every single other high school in the country?  WHOA that would be embarrassing!!  Also, I don’t know if it’s because of the word mum in the name, but it makes me think of something a mother would get her daughter, which would make the relationship you’re aiming for seem more motherly than sisterly,  you know?

    What are her hobbies, etc?  

    Post # 13
    1411 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I think it was a sweet gesture, but it’s gonna make you look weird to your stepmom and BF’s sister lol. I wouldn’t do anything for her for homecoming, just keep in touch and make sure you and your BF get her an awesome Christmas gift! But really, 14 is a difficult age, definitely try to be nice to her, but I would worry about being her friend more once her hormones are more settled 😛 Also remember Seattle is more exciting than 99% of Colorado! (No offense, but objectively, from the average teenagers’ perspective on things to do. I have a cousin who lived there as a teenager and hated it)

    ETA: If she’s into guitar and likes old music at all, you could get her a book of Nirvana sheet music. You could send it with a note saying something like sorry I’m from somewhere so weird, I live somewhere much cooler now! Lol! 

    Post # 14
    1088 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Must be just a Texas thing 🙂

    Post # 15
    1524 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @nerdybee:  went to HS in NY, and I have never heard of that!

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