(Closed) NWR – Babies at fancy restaurants – yes or no?

posted 8 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Would you take a young baby to a fancy restaurant?

    Yes

    No

    Depends on the situation (like if my babysitter canceled)

  • Post # 182
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Blueghostgirl:  oh boy, babies (actually toddlers) in first class is another one of my pet peeves, as is people having overly loud conversations on planes. The problem is, once you’re up in the air, you can’t quite ask the parents to leave the plane till the child settles down. Young babies are generally quiet. The toddlers are holy hell though and if I’ve paid loads extra for a chair that turns into a bed, and your kid keeps me from sleeping, I’m going to be pissed.

     

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    @This Time Round: Mentions, barrimg babies from some places is illegal in some areas, which is why it’s important for society to have and uphold its own standards of behavior. 

     

    after all, you wouldn’t get all gussied up for a visit to a splash park, would you? Nope, you’d wear shorts over your swimsuit and you’d fully expect kids to be laughing and playing everywhere.  It’s all about choosing the appropriate behavior for the situation you’re going to be in. And having a baby in tow isn’t appropriate at some restaurants.

     

     

     

    Post # 183
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    Bee Keeper

    @Horseradish:  +1, well said; esp your points about flights. I really really wish they would introduce some adult-only flights.

    Post # 184
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I have a 4 month old, and I would NOT bring her to a fancy restaurant. I get panicky enough that she’s going to make a scene in our local BBQ restaurant or walmart, let along a nice restaurant. Plus, if I’m spending all that money, I want to enjoy myself and not worry about taking care of my LO.

    All in all, I think it was inconsiderate of this couple.

     

    Post # 186
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @annifer:  Exactly. I don’t have kids yet, but I would never in a million years bring them somewhere like this restaurant (I wouldn’t have reservations in the first place, but thats another story) or to somewhere that is really fancy like that. It sucks that there are parents that seem to not use good judgement when deciding where to take their kids or that seem to believe that everyone else around them should be responsible for their child’s behavior.

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    @peachacid:  I have an Uncle and two Great-Uncles who have or had Parkinson’s. I believe that only one of them would have been a true distraction at a place like this, but that was because he suffered a head injury in a car crash after his diagnosis. He would be very lucid at times, but other times he would think everyone except my Grandpa (his big brother) was trying to kill him. He wouldn’t be quiet about it either; he once started screaming (in court) that his wife was trying to kill him and he was begging my Grandpa not to let her hurt him.

    I see the point you’re attempting to make, but I don’t think that a knife hitting a plate would have the same impact as a screaming baby or a screaming adult.

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    @Blueghostgirl:  I actually don’t mind the kids on the planes so much. I figure, babies have places to go too. And you never know exactly why someone is traveling. If a kid gets fussy, I’m that person on the plane who will make ridiculous faces at the kid to try and get them to laugh. . . or at least smile at the parents who are trying to calm them down so they don’t feel as bad.

    I don’t know whether kids should be in First Class or not. I don’t plan on flying First Class ever, but I can see the argument against it because the tickets are so much more expensive and part of the reason they’re expensive is because you’re paying for a better “experience.” Same with a super fancy restaurant like this. If the meal lasts a couple of hours (which it sounds like it does) then a young kid is likely to get bored at some point or tired or just fussy. It just doesn’t seem fair to the other diners and I think restaurants should consider implementing family friendly hours – that way, people who want the full experience can have it and parents can still go out on dates, even if their childcare plans fall through.

     

     

     

    Post # 187
    Hostess
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    When we’re talking a super fancy place like this [nearly $300 a head!], I don’t think kids should be allowed. Many times, places like these have dress codes and the like, I don’t see why there shouldn’t be child codes.

    And comparing someone who is mentally disabled to a child is horrible.

    I love kids, and although I don’t prefer to hear screaming children at regular eateries, I understand that they are family joints. When it comes to high-end restaurants it shouldn’t even be a question.

    Post # 189
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Horseradish:  With you on the toddlers in first class pet peeve.

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    @barbie86:  I would SO pick the adult-only fight when making the reservation if that option were available!

    I am actually rather shocked that this thread turned into such a debate. I thought it was common knowledge not to bring misbehaving young children/screaming infants into expensive (and usually quiet) restaurants?

    Post # 190
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsNewDay:  Yes! +1 Misbehaving entities don’t belong in restaurants, children and adults alike.

    Post # 191
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Atalanta:  Seriously, no tip because of something that is completely out of the servers hands? That is beyond uncalled for.

    I understand you are paying a lot of money for a meal and if it was ruined you don’t feel like paying more. But it is NOT the servers responsibility to kick out another couple who are disturbing your experience. I guarantee they were annoyed by the baby as well. But they just DON’T have that power. They are still doing their job.

    I’m not sure what your job is, but imagine that something went wrong at your job that was the fault of someone above you getting paid more. That person still gets paid (thats where your money is going to btw, not the server) and YOU get your pay docked. Does that seem ok to you?

     

    Post # 192
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    Helper bee

    I can’t imagine going to a fancy restaurant with an 8 month old would be fun for me, my husband OR the baby. But a non-fancy one- probably. I could see not wanting to be stuck at home every single night. Or not wanting to need weeks in advance to get a sitter for just one meal out.  I think we are seeing it more, but back in the day women didn’t even leave the house massivly pregnant or even say the word pregnant. It was too unseemly. They were stuck at home with the young kids and were sort of second class citizens. Now not so much. I think overall our attitudes about parental roles have greatly improved. This restaurant baby thing is a bit far in the other direction, but I’m hesitant to judge people that are dealing with having an 8 month old before I do it 10 times better. And I haven’t yet done it 10 times better. (and probably won’t)

    Post # 193
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Blueghostgirl:  

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    Why limit it to first class?? So high end buissnessmen whose tickets are paid for by super rich companies are even more comfy then the hard working people who  shelled out hundreds if not thousands of dollars of their own money for a flight?  People in 2nd class are already so much less comfy. I can’t see a more classist solution then it just applying to 1st class, talk about catering to the privaleged.

    Trust me I get the flight thing and there is nothing I’d want more then kid-free flights, but we have to remember that we don’t go flying for enjoyment like we do when we go to a restaurant, it is a mode of transportation.  Sorry, babies need to be transported too and if parents have the money for 1st class tickets I couldn’t disagree more that they should be sent back to bother the plebs in 2nd class.  They are mearly peeons, who cares, right?

    Post # 195
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    Helper bee

    @annifer:  What is interesting to me is the contrast with things that have often disturbed me at nice restaurants. Slightly slooshy patrons speaking WAY TOO LOUD the entire time for instance. Hell old people in general speak too loud regardless of their number of drinks. Once I’m pretty sure some old lady has wet herself and I could smell it. I’m not saying people should be totally happy a baby is crying in a restaurant. I used to sit in the smoking sectionto avoid that issue actually. But it does seem that certain people really get very hyped up about this certain KIND of disturbance and are either 1 less bothered by the other types of disturbances for some reason or 2 are just as annoyed but unwilling to opening insult old people or social drinking -(both of which i’m also cool with). I just don’t expect the world to be 100 percent to my liking all the time. Cause it won’t be. So either people can expect that to be the case or just be constantly in a state of feeling put out. 

    Post # 196
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No way – I think these parents were very inconsiderate of all of the other guests who also paid $300 to eat that night. They should have found a back-up plan or stayed home.

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