- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
I’m not looking to start anything, just need a vent here.
I have been with my FI for 5 years, over the course of a lot of ups and downs. In my small town, it is not the norm to be with someone this long without having kids/getting married already, etc.
We are waiting to have our wedding until after I am done my schooling, which will be in April 2015. Fair enough, I thought when we got engaged, it sounded like a good plan. I was ready to fend off anyone who said otherwise; it worked for us.
Now, it being past a year since we got engaged, and it will be pushing 2.5 years when we get married, I’m getting a little thinned out. I’ve spoken with my parents, FI, close friends, and they all say they see nothing wrong with waiting to get married after class. Why have a small one I wouldn’t like now, only to re-do it later, right?
Well, I know more than enough people my age (20~23) who are getting pregnant, married all that after only a few months.
And that bothers me. I am jealous. Why can everyone else get married and pop out kids, why do I have to do the ‘traditional’ thing, I want to be married, I want to start a family.
One girl in particular, keeps texting/facebooking me to comment about how her pregnancy is going, completely unprovoked, and updates me on how she assures she will be engaged and married before summer. She then pulls out, at least once or twice a day, “So when are you and FI getting married again…? WOW, that’s a long ways away. My little baby will be a year old by then, AND I’ll be married by then too. That sucks you have to wait, why not hurry up? We did, and we’re fine.”
Originally I would defend our choices, but it’s eating away at me. I know I don’t have the multitasking ability to plan a wedding and complete my degree, that’s why we chose what we did. Now I’m unsure…
I fully realize I sound whiny, and like I said I’m not looking to start anything, but any tips to help get over this…