(Closed) NWR but looking for support VERY LONG

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh, my gosh, how awful! I hope that with full custody you can take your daughter to CA with you and get your ex out of your and your daughter’s lives for good! *hugs*

Post # 4
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh my goodness!  I am so sorry you have to go through all of that =(  

I know it’s a crazy and stressful time for you…. but just keep focused on the future you will have with you Fiance and daughter. You did absolutely the right thing by calling the cops and filing a restraining order… and it sounds like the courts are doing the right thing by granting you full custody.  Hopefully you will have a future that doesn’t need to involve him.

You and your family are in my prayers… I hope everything works out ok.

Post # 5
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Oh my god. I am SO sorry you are going through this. Your ex is a nutcase!

Like Amaryllis said… at least the silver lining of this is that you now have 100% custody and you don’t have to deal with him or his BS anymore. I wish you the best of luck dealing with this situation.

Post # 6
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@MrsNeutrino: HOLY SHIT!!!! ((HUGS))) I am so, so sorry that this happened to you, but so glad your daughter wasn’t there to witness this.  So glad you got her back too. As horrible as it was that he did this, at least now you shouldn’t have an issue taking her to LA with you. Keep us updated, and hopefully you will have a family member or your Fiance go with you to court so you aren’t alone

Post # 7
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh hon, I am so so so sorry!!!!  Do you have a lawyer of your own?  If not, call your local domestic violence shelter; they should be able to hook you up with a legal advocate to accompany you to court.   It’s not as good as your own lawyer (assuming s/he’s good), but it’s better than nothing. If you don’t know how to find the number for your local shelter, call 800-799-SAFE (7233), and they should be able to help.

Post # 8
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012


Well, the good part is you filed the report and have evidence that he not only threatened you but was intent on carrying through with it.  Fingers crossed he DOES NOT get your daughter back!

Is there a way you and your Fiance could get a lawyer?  If so, definitely do that.  Having someone who knows the ins and outs is a major bonus.  

Good luck and I’m sooo sooo sorry you’ve had to go through all this!  Hope you have a quick recovery and can get away with your daughter free-and-clear!!!

Post # 9
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

omg i am so so sorry that you’re going through this – my eyes are teary for you and your daughter, and im just glad for you that you have her back and you weren’t seriously injured

keeping you in my thoughts and prayers that the custody hearing goes well and you, your Fiance  and your sweet little girl can heal from this

Post # 10
46421 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mightywombat: gives  you the best advice. If you can’t afford to have a lawyer accompany you, an advocate can be a big help.

Your ex just showed his true self and as sad and scary as it was, you are most likely to retain full custody with him likely getting supervised visitation at best.

Just continue to be strong. You are the parent your daughter needs and the court will see it that way too.

Post # 11
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

OMG!!!! I am so glad you have 100% custody now of her. That is just so crazy! I am so sorry!

Post # 12
3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

omfg. i hope you’re okay and the court proceedings go well (and in your favor). what a shitbag! we’re here for you <3

Post # 15
2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsNeutrino: As a mom, I couldn’t imagine going through this and I’m so, SO sorry you have had to… *HUGS* That is unbelievably scary. Your Fiance sounds like a good guy and at least he is there to love you and support both you and your daughter. I don’t have any good advice unfortunately, but my heart was breaking toward the end of your story. I hope things work out for the best!

Post # 16
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsNeutrino: Oh good. And your lawyer will be representing you at these hearings, I hope? 

I’m sure your lawyer is on it, but it occurs to me that the police should have documented the cut on your head. That evidence, along with the razor you brought, could be useful.


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